"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Was this a complement?

Canadian Catnip

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Hi all. I'm an older dude in my mid 40 and there is this HB 8 at least, that works down the street from where I live. I think there is some attraction between us but I'm confused by what she said to me today.

I'm going a bit bald so I decided to shave my head completely about two weeks ago. I saw here today and she took one look at my head and said "fresh". She is in her 20's and uses phrases like that sometimes. I'm not up on the lingo of the younger crowd and I wanted someone to help me out with what it could mean.

I went on urban dictionary to look up what it means and I think it was a complement. There are dozens of definitions of the word from attractive, fly, stylish to smelly or rookie.

Anyone know what she meant in this circumstance?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Cashew

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It sounds to me that she was noticing the change in appearance and thought that the change was good and worth the compliment. It's definitely doesn't sound like a negative comment, tone and expression obviously being a potential factor here.
 

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"It is .. wanna feel?"
 

ATG

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Fresh is good. Better than whatever you had b4 that. When someone compliments me that I dont understand, I always ask, "is that a good thing or a bad thing? They usually would explain.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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