"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I got a phone number of a girl in a store, i texted her
Me: hey how you doing, me from the store
she: i am good, how about you,
Me: Just chillin at home planning to do something for eve, would you like to come and hangout for a movie or a coffee
she: like a date?
Me: no, its like friends, i just wanted to get to know you as a friend, you can choose any plan i am open
she: yeah i might be after work
Me: let me know when you get off
She: alright sounds good
Me: what time you get off?
She : like 5
Me: buzz me when you get off

She never buzzed for the rest of the day

today i sent her a text message: saying
me: hey there, just trying to find out is everything ok from your side, hope ur fine

she: i really got busy and i lost my phone and could n;t make it yesterday
Me; sorry to hear, would you like to plan sometime sooner like sat or sun

she never replied to this message
what did i do wrong, where exactly i messed up
is she playing games?
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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oneboy21 said:
I got a phone number of a girl in a store, i texted her
Me: hey how you doing, me from the store
she: i am good, how about you,
Me: Just chillin at home planning to do something for eve, would you like to come and hangout for a movie or a coffee
she: like a date?
oneboy21]Me: no, its like friends, i just wanted to get to know you as a friend, you can choose any plan i am open
she: yeah i might be after work
Me: let me know when you get off
She: alright sounds good
Me: what time you get off?
She : like 5
Me: buzz me when you get off

She never buzzed for the rest of the day
You see that part I put in bold? I'd say there's where you messed up. She asked you if the two of you getting together was a date or not,and you told her no.


And if that wasn't bad enough,you told her she could make the plans.


That was a HUGE ERROR.




You seemed wishy-washy. Women don't like that.



They want a man who's strong,a go-getter,some who can take-charge.


You told her she could make the plans,and you'd just go along with it.


Not good.



Plus,you weren't being honest with her. She knew you wanted to date her,but instead of coming straight out and saying so when she asked you,
you tried to play it safe by going the friends route.


You can't do that.


You see that list of excuses I have in my signature? Looks like she decided to double up on them.



She used both "I'm busy" and "I lost my phone",lol.


You just need to be more agressive. Stop trying to be nce and polite and just say what you want.



If you wanted to take her out,you should have told her that when she asked you.
 

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Let's see:

-You were too fast with the asking out
-You were indirect
-When asked if this was a date, you messed up by saying no (meaning, you failed to show intentions and interest)
-She flaked you BIG time (lol, lost phone? one of the worst excuses I've EVER heard).

You messed up dude. Learn from the mistakes we outlined.
 

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oneboy21 said:
I got a phone number of a girl in a store, i texted her
Me: hey how you doing, me from the store
she: i am good, how about you,
Me: Just chillin at home planning to do something for eve, would you like to come and hangout for a movie or a coffee
she: like a date?
Me: SHUT UP AND FIX ME A CHICKEN POT PIE
That's how it should have gone.
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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