"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I got a phone number of a girl in a store, i texted her
Me: hey how you doing, me from the store
she: i am good, how about you,
Me: Just chillin at home planning to do something for eve, would you like to come and hangout for a movie or a coffee
she: like a date?
Me: no, its like friends, i just wanted to get to know you as a friend, you can choose any plan i am open
she: yeah i might be after work
Me: let me know when you get off
She: alright sounds good
Me: what time you get off?
She : like 5
Me: buzz me when you get off

She never buzzed for the rest of the day

today i sent her a text message: saying
me: hey there, just trying to find out is everything ok from your side, hope ur fine

she: i really got busy and i lost my phone and could n;t make it yesterday
Me; sorry to hear, would you like to plan sometime sooner like sat or sun

she never replied to this message
what did i do wrong, where exactly i messed up
is she playing games?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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oneboy21 said:
I got a phone number of a girl in a store, i texted her
Me: hey how you doing, me from the store
she: i am good, how about you,
Me: Just chillin at home planning to do something for eve, would you like to come and hangout for a movie or a coffee
she: like a date?
oneboy21]Me: no, its like friends, i just wanted to get to know you as a friend, you can choose any plan i am open
she: yeah i might be after work
Me: let me know when you get off
She: alright sounds good
Me: what time you get off?
She : like 5
Me: buzz me when you get off

She never buzzed for the rest of the day
You see that part I put in bold? I'd say there's where you messed up. She asked you if the two of you getting together was a date or not,and you told her no.


And if that wasn't bad enough,you told her she could make the plans.


That was a HUGE ERROR.




You seemed wishy-washy. Women don't like that.



They want a man who's strong,a go-getter,some who can take-charge.


You told her she could make the plans,and you'd just go along with it.


Not good.



Plus,you weren't being honest with her. She knew you wanted to date her,but instead of coming straight out and saying so when she asked you,
you tried to play it safe by going the friends route.


You can't do that.


You see that list of excuses I have in my signature? Looks like she decided to double up on them.



She used both "I'm busy" and "I lost my phone",lol.


You just need to be more agressive. Stop trying to be nce and polite and just say what you want.



If you wanted to take her out,you should have told her that when she asked you.
 

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Let's see:

-You were too fast with the asking out
-You were indirect
-When asked if this was a date, you messed up by saying no (meaning, you failed to show intentions and interest)
-She flaked you BIG time (lol, lost phone? one of the worst excuses I've EVER heard).

You messed up dude. Learn from the mistakes we outlined.
 

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oneboy21 said:
I got a phone number of a girl in a store, i texted her
Me: hey how you doing, me from the store
she: i am good, how about you,
Me: Just chillin at home planning to do something for eve, would you like to come and hangout for a movie or a coffee
she: like a date?
Me: SHUT UP AND FIX ME A CHICKEN POT PIE
That's how it should have gone.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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