"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Was this a bad career choice?

Leaf

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I needed to get some experience in my profession. As a general consensus, everyone goes into managing male sports teams as that's the most common scenario. I've gone back to my local club initially more so to get back to hanging with the guys and get back into training (these guys regardless of myself, accept me for who I am).

Thing is, their female team equivalent ended up looking for a manager and I put my hand up and got the position. Thing is I feel the general consensus around my class cohort is that everyone is taking the piss out of me (I'm your typical ladies flirt so 'how are we not surprised you're now working with a woman's sports team' is the underlying tone of what I get from everyone).

Yes I know in all honesty this should not affect me but I am not sure if I've missed anything. I've never been part of the 'boys club' regardless of how hard I've tried to 'fit in'. Ironically, it's the boys club that I've always tried to fit in yet I've never grasped it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bible_Belt

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Don't hit on any of the girls

I agree. That's a recipe for trouble. Don't even flirt; there's too much of a chance of it coming off as harassment.

*After* your tenure of employment, fvck all of them you want to. It should be easy if you never hit on them when you were the coach.
 
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