"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Was she just being considerate of my feelings or is she still interested?

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I ran into this girl I used date off and on. Things broke off due to the side effects of meds I was taking. Found out that was the problem and got off the pills. I was depressed and eventually out of shape. After months of not seeing to each other face to face and nothing but texts and short phone convos, I ran into her and explained what was going on. She said don't worry about it the past is the past. But here comes the problem I had heard she had new new boyfriend. She had been trying to steer around the topic and I basically had to force her to say it. I asked her for her number and she was reluctant at first but still gave it to me. I joked about how nervous she seemed and asked if there was anything she needed to say while I was there. Her voice very audibly shaky and nervous and she just couldn't find the words at first. After she said she was taken I just nodded quietly. Then said it had only been a couple since they started dating and they don't see each other much due to conflicting schedules. After that She was basically trying to run away before I could say anything.

Stupidly I admitted I still had feelings for her and she said it was too late because she was taken. Before she left she said if I needed anything to call her she only lives a few blocks away. So what do you guys think was she just being nice or was there still some interest there?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sounds like you should find new girls to date, this one is done with you.
I would try not to contact her, she is not the only girl around. Concentrate on yourself and let this one go.
 

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I definitely will find new girls to date regardless. I just wanted to get other peoples thoughts on the situation. I've just been concentrating on getting back to form but, for some reason this has just been on my mind.
 

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She's just trying to not add to your depression, it's over dude...
 

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Nothing is wrong with me now been off the meds for a few months and, feeling perfect. But either way you guys are right. I have a couple potential prospects, just sucks being back at square one because things were out of my control.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Square one is a good thing when you have already left a bad impression of yourself with someone. Telling someone you are on meds is the same thing as telling them you're crazy. Information to be withheld until after the bang for sure...
 

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Yeah I know that wasn't the best idea but, she knew me years before and she was wondering why I was acting different. But it's cool not gonna get all butthurt over it. Too young to be tied down anyway and the way I figure it her relationship won't last, so I probably got the better end of things.
 
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