"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think I wrote about this girl in another thread, I took some pics of her and we smashed 4 times in the first time we ever met. Big tits, elegant body, hot vag (had a boyfriend). After that time, she didn't come to the capital of Albania for about a month and then came back about a week ago. We met, we banged once and I left for home since I had stuff to do the other day. Now it turns out she had another work conference in Tirana this week and has been here since two nights ago, but yesterday she called me telling me her boyfriend had broken up with her and I could hear she was sad. I could not meet her yesterday since I was up to my neck with work and although I thought I would be more available today, I also had a busy work day and now I wanna hit the gym and relax a bit then. She called me again today and when I told her I probably can't come, I felt she got said and started acting like...she didn't care or sth.

I don't feel like going today and I feel like hitting the gym and relaxing, but this may lose me this girl. Frankly, I don't mind. If she leaves for something like this, let her not let the door hit her on the way out. What would you have done?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I think I wrote about this girl in another thread, I took some pics of her and we smashed 4 times in the first time we ever met. Big tits, elegant body, hot vag (had a boyfriend). After that time, she didn't come to the capital of Albania for about a month and then came back about a week ago. We met, we banged once and I left for home since I had stuff to do the other day. Now it turns out she had another work conference in Tirana this week and has been here since two nights ago, but yesterday she called me telling me her boyfriend had broken up with her and I could hear she was sad. I could not meet her yesterday since I was up to my neck with work and although I thought I would be more available today, I also had a busy work day and now I wanna hit the gym and relax a bit then. She called me again today and when I told her I probably can't come, I felt she got said and started acting like...she didn't care or sth.

I don't feel like going today and I feel like hitting the gym and relaxing, but this may lose me this girl. Frankly, I don't mind. If she leaves for something like this, let her not let the door hit her on the way out. What would you have done?
Do what you want. If she can’t handle the fact that you are legit busy with work and gym (which are priorities that come before women) then that’s on her.

Although while trying to understand her female perspective on this maybe she’s thinking oh I told him my bf brokeup with me and now I’ve asked to meetup with him twice and he’s uninterested/distant.

It’s the same type of thing us DJ’s do right? If a girl rejects our offers twice (I like to try one more time a week or so later if a first rejection happens with no counteroffer) then we assume low interest and we withdraw attention. She’s not feeling that you are interested as much anymore.

If you are still interested and want to bang her again, maybe you should give her a counter offer instead of just saying you can’t chill and that’s that?

Either way she is looking for someone to fill the void with since her bf brokeup with her. Her ego is hurt by that and even moreso since you are choosing your male priorities over her offers. She’s selfish IMO and honestly I have no sympathy for her since she’s a cheating h0e. She deserves to be alone for a few nights.

Good job on the lays you have had with her though. No one wants to be on the other side of that and my guess is that the bf found out she was sleeping around.
 

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Do what you want. If she can’t handle the fact that you are legit busy with work and gym (which are priorities that come before women) then that’s on her.

Although while trying to understand her female perspective on this maybe she’s thinking oh I told him my bf brokeup with me and now I’ve asked to meetup with him twice and he’s uninterested/distant.

It’s the same type of thing us DJ’s do right? If a girl rejects our offers twice (I like to try one more time a week or so later if a first rejection happens with no counteroffer) then we assume low interest and we withdraw attention. She’s not feeling that you are interested as much anymore.

If you are still interested and want to bang her again, maybe you should give her a counter offer instead of just saying you can’t chill and that’s that?

Either way she is looking for someone to fill the void with since her bf brokeup with her. Her ego is hurt by that and even moreso since you are choosing your male priorities over her offers. She’s selfish IMO and honestly I have no sympathy for her since she’s a cheating h0e. She deserves to be alone for a few nights.

Good job on the lays you have had with her though. No one wants to be on the other side of that and my guess is that the bf found out she was sleeping around.
I gave her a counter-offer and told her we could meet up next time she was in town. Nah, I don;;t think he found out, he is in London since a couple of months and who knows what happened LOL
 

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Indeed, do what you want at the moment in time. End of the day, she's not realty GF material because she's a cheater. She's feeling rejected because she's just been dumped. You'll probably be able to bang again at some point. She may be fit, but she's just a bang buddy at this point.
 

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I hit the gym, it was leg and biceps day today, good workout, enjoyed it quite some. Will tell her I couldn't come and that we meet next time she's here. Don't mind whatever happens.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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