"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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was I used? im not sure if she is interested

BongDuy

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So there is this big party event for my fraternity, and it's invite only. this girl, who we will call Renee, starts heavily flirting with me two weeks before the event. at first i didn't want to take her, because i had another girl in mind, but because my plans didn't work out, i ended up taking her.

Before taking her, I hooked up with her, but didn't really get a chance to escalate more than making out.

Last night was the event, and we went out to a club, with an open bar, so everyone got **** faced. the beginning of the night while we are waiting for the buses to take us to the club, she starts crying( why? i have no clue), and i hold her and she ends up drinking a fvck ton before we even get on the party bus to take us to the club. while we are on the bus, we hook up a bit, and her legs are on mine, so im going crazy with the kino, touching everywhere but her vagina. that's the only spot she would NOT let me touch all night.

At the club, we get hot and heavy. serious grinding, she gives me a lap dance, and we are hooking up. all my friends are giving me mad props for getting some serious PDA ( public display of affection ) and it's great. suddenly, she says she will be right back, and she is dancing on other dudes.

At first i'm not bothered at all, because its not like we went together as boyfriend and girlfriend, or something, because i ended up dancing with a lot of different girls that night, but Renee, was the only girl I hooked up with that night. Later that evening, I hear from a good friend of mine that she was hooking up with some other dudes. At the club, she would come grind on me, leave, find another girl, grind with him, and try to find me to grind with me again. I honestly felt a tiny bit disrespected, so i would ditch her and what not, so i wasn't so clingy to one girl.

By the time we went to take the party bus back, She was exhausted, and did not want to have sex. but we did make out abunch on the way back

My question was, Was did she use me just to go to the party? Or should i try to pursue her when she is sober and keep pushing through her last minute resistance
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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lol while u were kissing her on the bus back she was sucking some other guys dude in the club

sorry bro




it was an open bar all the girls must of been mad drunk there why did u only end up with her?!?
 

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Why would you kiss a girl after she had been kissing other dudes the same day.... That's homo bro.
 

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Pierce said:
Why would you kiss a girl after she had been kissing other dudes the same day.... That's homo bro.
what an immature statement.
 

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who wants to kiss a girl that has been kissing other guys minutes before?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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That's reasonable. Has she been talking to you since the party?
 
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