"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Was I too harsh?

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A lot has happened since I made that 'asexual' thread. I met this chick and we liked each other from the beginning. Since I can develop oneitis quickly, I didn't call her for a couple days. In fact, I wasn't going to call her again at all. Anyway, she calls me Saturday (caught me off guard) and asks what I'm doing later. Basically, I told her that I was busy but we could meet up in the evening.

Anyway, she wanted to talk on the phone even after I said I'm busy, so I said "if you want to meet up with me later today, you gotta stop talking. I'm busy."

Her response was "ok, well call me before you leave".

We met up, had sex, and I don't even think it matters. But was what I said too harsh? Normally, I don't say things like that but I tend not to care about stuff like that anymore. I've been doing and saying what I want since my all time low a couple weeks ago.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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if you ended up having sex with her anyways then who cares?
 
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nonameok said:
Anyway, she wanted to talk on the phone even after I said I'm busy, so I said "if you want to meet up with me later today, you gotta stop talking. I'm busy."

Her response was "ok, well call me before you leave".

We met up, had sex, and I don't even think it matters. But was what I said too harsh?
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Right method, wrong technique.

"if you want to meet up with me later today, you gotta stop talking. I'm busy."- NO GOOD.

"I apologize but I have to leave you now. Perhaps we could meet up tonight for dinner."

With what you said, you are putting her down and telling her you are more important than her. Some girls like it, but generally, you shouldn't do that.
 
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