"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Was i too harsh on her?

strong like bull

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i thought it was earned, but i could use some input.

i meet a girl at a party last week. hit it off, fool around a bit, have a good time. we part and i dont get her number. i go back to my usual routine - work, weightlifting, etc - kind of take the situation in stride, even though id like to have taken it further.

lo and behold, she tries to get intouch with ME for a week straight. she called mutual friends, who were also at the party, to give me her number. for me to get in touch with her. to tell me that, among other things, she had broken up with her boyfriend.

again, taken in stride. shes young, 16, so i expect her to be goofy.

i call her yesterday. shoot the bull for a min, keep it light, then offer some plans. we agree for me to call her the next night and for her to come over to hang out.

cool.

call her tonight. talk for a min.. then she tells me something interesting. her BF is coming over to her place! super.

i keep it light for a minute. again, shes a youngster, this is how they act. i tell her shes missing out, blah blah, she flirts on the phone then tells me to give her a call later.

i tell her it was silly, to make plans ahead and then break them like this. literally, i have about TWO nights a week where im not working, in school, at the gym, etc. she just blew one of 'em. she says she tried to break up with her boyfriend last night, but he wouldnt listen, blah, blah, blah.

she says shell call me back in a bit. i tell her, ok, figure it out and then give me a call. and i hang up on her. kind of funny, because as i was pulling the phone away to hang up, i could still hear her yapping.

hahaha

anyways. she calls me a bit later and leaves a message saying

"im watching a movie with (female friend) and retard-boy (referring to her boyfriend). are you ignoring me now? call me. blah blah"

i laughed and left it like it is.

lol, girls make me chuckle sometimes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Knicknack

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you handled it perfectly... give her a couple days... next time tell her flaky girls are your pet peeve and for her to only set up a date if she intends to go.
 

DJ_Dork

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she's 16? take this to the high school forum, that's where immature people are dealt with.
 

squirrels

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LOL...that's great. If more guys took hold of their balls at that age and educated these women that they can't just pull that kind of crap with guys by virtue of having a vag!na, then there'd be less need for sites like this. :)

Hit her back in two or three days and give her another chance. Act like nothing ever happened and if she gets p!ssy, just laugh at her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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