"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Was i too harsh on her?

strong like bull

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i thought it was earned, but i could use some input.

i meet a girl at a party last week. hit it off, fool around a bit, have a good time. we part and i dont get her number. i go back to my usual routine - work, weightlifting, etc - kind of take the situation in stride, even though id like to have taken it further.

lo and behold, she tries to get intouch with ME for a week straight. she called mutual friends, who were also at the party, to give me her number. for me to get in touch with her. to tell me that, among other things, she had broken up with her boyfriend.

again, taken in stride. shes young, 16, so i expect her to be goofy.

i call her yesterday. shoot the bull for a min, keep it light, then offer some plans. we agree for me to call her the next night and for her to come over to hang out.

cool.

call her tonight. talk for a min.. then she tells me something interesting. her BF is coming over to her place! super.

i keep it light for a minute. again, shes a youngster, this is how they act. i tell her shes missing out, blah blah, she flirts on the phone then tells me to give her a call later.

i tell her it was silly, to make plans ahead and then break them like this. literally, i have about TWO nights a week where im not working, in school, at the gym, etc. she just blew one of 'em. she says she tried to break up with her boyfriend last night, but he wouldnt listen, blah, blah, blah.

she says shell call me back in a bit. i tell her, ok, figure it out and then give me a call. and i hang up on her. kind of funny, because as i was pulling the phone away to hang up, i could still hear her yapping.

hahaha

anyways. she calls me a bit later and leaves a message saying

"im watching a movie with (female friend) and retard-boy (referring to her boyfriend). are you ignoring me now? call me. blah blah"

i laughed and left it like it is.

lol, girls make me chuckle sometimes.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Knicknack

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you handled it perfectly... give her a couple days... next time tell her flaky girls are your pet peeve and for her to only set up a date if she intends to go.
 

DJ_Dork

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she's 16? take this to the high school forum, that's where immature people are dealt with.
 

squirrels

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LOL...that's great. If more guys took hold of their balls at that age and educated these women that they can't just pull that kind of crap with guys by virtue of having a vag!na, then there'd be less need for sites like this. :)

Hit her back in two or three days and give her another chance. Act like nothing ever happened and if she gets p!ssy, just laugh at her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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