"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Was i too harsh on her?

strong like bull

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i thought it was earned, but i could use some input.

i meet a girl at a party last week. hit it off, fool around a bit, have a good time. we part and i dont get her number. i go back to my usual routine - work, weightlifting, etc - kind of take the situation in stride, even though id like to have taken it further.

lo and behold, she tries to get intouch with ME for a week straight. she called mutual friends, who were also at the party, to give me her number. for me to get in touch with her. to tell me that, among other things, she had broken up with her boyfriend.

again, taken in stride. shes young, 16, so i expect her to be goofy.

i call her yesterday. shoot the bull for a min, keep it light, then offer some plans. we agree for me to call her the next night and for her to come over to hang out.

cool.

call her tonight. talk for a min.. then she tells me something interesting. her BF is coming over to her place! super.

i keep it light for a minute. again, shes a youngster, this is how they act. i tell her shes missing out, blah blah, she flirts on the phone then tells me to give her a call later.

i tell her it was silly, to make plans ahead and then break them like this. literally, i have about TWO nights a week where im not working, in school, at the gym, etc. she just blew one of 'em. she says she tried to break up with her boyfriend last night, but he wouldnt listen, blah, blah, blah.

she says shell call me back in a bit. i tell her, ok, figure it out and then give me a call. and i hang up on her. kind of funny, because as i was pulling the phone away to hang up, i could still hear her yapping.

hahaha

anyways. she calls me a bit later and leaves a message saying

"im watching a movie with (female friend) and retard-boy (referring to her boyfriend). are you ignoring me now? call me. blah blah"

i laughed and left it like it is.

lol, girls make me chuckle sometimes.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Knicknack

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you handled it perfectly... give her a couple days... next time tell her flaky girls are your pet peeve and for her to only set up a date if she intends to go.
 

DJ_Dork

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she's 16? take this to the high school forum, that's where immature people are dealt with.
 

squirrels

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LOL...that's great. If more guys took hold of their balls at that age and educated these women that they can't just pull that kind of crap with guys by virtue of having a vag!na, then there'd be less need for sites like this. :)

Hit her back in two or three days and give her another chance. Act like nothing ever happened and if she gets p!ssy, just laugh at her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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