"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Was i played?

Essa Rios

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So there is this cute asian girl who is always see at the gym the same time that i go. I always see her but don't approach as i've read its not cool to pick up chicks at gym.

Yesterday while i was using the bench press she walks up to me and asked to borrow 3bucks to buy a snack as she was hungry. Kinda caught me off guard but i used this opening to introduce myself plus ask her name as well.
I lend her the cash and she promise to pay me back next time she see's me.


Today i saw her again so i walk up to her and said "Hello" and hoping to talk to her as well. She gives me a half smile and continues her workout completely ignoring me so i walk away like a loser.
So i go about doing my workout but little pissed off but i do not show it.
Later i run into her at the water fountain but she does not acknowledge me at all.

If she would of been cool with me from the start i would not have taken the money if she had tried to pay me back. But she has made no attempt so
my question is should i walk up to her and ask for my 3 bucks back. I know it sounds silly but she is acting like a bit*h. Thoughts????
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Ask for your 3 bucks back. Tell her you are hungry and you forgot the wallet in your car.
 

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Essa Rios said:
So there is this cute asian girl who is always see at the gym the same time that i go. I always see her but don't approach as i've read its not cool to pick up chicks at gym.
It's not cool to pick up chicks at the gym? ....where did you read that at?



Essa Rios said:
Yesterday while i was using the bench press she walks up to me and asked to borrow 3bucks to buy a snack as she was hungry. Kinda caught me off guard but i used this opening to introduce myself plus ask her name as well.
I lend her the cash and she promise to pay me back next time she see's me.
So she just walks up to you out of the blue and asks for money?

Did she talk to you a little first,or did she just say "hi" and ask for the money?


Essa Rios said:
Today i saw her again so i walk up to her and said "Hello" and hoping to talk to her as well. She gives me a half smile and continues her workout completely ignoring me so i walk away like a loser.
So i go about doing my workout but little pissed off but i do not show it.
Later i run into her at the water fountain but she does not acknowledge me at all.
So all of this happened the next day,the day after you lend her the money.


So what happened right after you lent her the money? Did she just say thank you,then walk away without speaking to you again?



Essa Rios said:
my question is should i walk up to her and ask for my 3 bucks back.


Uhh.....YEAH.


What are you doing giving out your money to STRANGERS to begin with?


Your question was whether you were played or not.


Yes,you were played,but not this girl.



You played YOURSELF.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You should be more assertive man. Smile but tell her: "O.K. very funny. Give me my money back."

But there is always the possibility that:

a) She is some hard core leech and she is used to get away with it. She always uses guys who stare at her all night long and don't make a move.

b) You know how east Asian people look all the same to us? Well, maybe she is not that girl, who steal your money, dude :D

Take care esse
 

marinetti

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yeah man, sounds more like you played yourself by trying to play it cool instead of just being a regular person, saying hi when you recognize her, and asking for your money back.

Why did you give her 3 bucks in the first place? You'd never talked to her before... You could've at least asked her name in return for the money, or bought her the food herself so you would've had time to talk to her...
 

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"Yesterday while i was using the bench press she walks up to me and asked to borrow 3bucks to buy a snack as she was hungry."

No, but I'm kinda horny, can you give me a *******?
 

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Learn from this and not make the same mistake again. Never give money to women, especially if they have not earned it. Would you give money if she were fat and ugly? Looks like she has probably done it many times before and have always gotten away with it. You are just one of many victims.
 

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Essa Rios said:
So there is this cute asian girl who is always see at the gym the same time that i go. I always see her but don't approach as i've read its not cool to pick up chicks at gym.

Yesterday while i was using the bench press she walks up to me and asked to borrow 3bucks to buy a snack as she was hungry. Kinda caught me off guard but i used this opening to introduce myself plus ask her name as well.
I lend her the cash and she promise to pay me back next time she see's me.


Today i saw her again so i walk up to her and said "Hello" and hoping to talk to her as well. She gives me a half smile and continues her workout completely ignoring me so i walk away like a loser.
So i go about doing my workout but little pissed off but i do not show it.
Later i run into her at the water fountain but she does not acknowledge me at all.

If she would of been cool with me from the start i would not have taken the money if she had tried to pay me back. But she has made no attempt so
my question is should i walk up to her and ask for my 3 bucks back. I know it sounds silly but she is acting like a bit*h. Thoughts????
man that is so hilarious thank you for the laugh. If only you needed the money and she lent it to you and you did the same to her, it would drive her crazy! i so want to do this!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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