"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Was I just LJBF'ed?

T Square

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So I just got back from a date with a hot girl I met through a painting class I was taking (not a university class, but one of those meet-once-a-week-for-fun classes for working stiffs like me take).

The last day of class we were looking at paintings in a museum. I thought I was getting some IOI's from her: She kept following me around, I firted with her and she flirted back, then at the end of the trip she gave me her e-mail and said we should hang out sometime.

I set up a coffee date for today to get to know her better. She shows up with her two friends! WTF! I played it cool and laid down some C+F stuff while talking to the group. I think I did a good job winning over the group. They were laughing a lot and seemed to like me. At the end of the "date" she said good-bye and made a few references about how we should see each other later.

So my question is, what's the deal with her bringing her friends along? Was she LJBF'ing me? Was she bringing them along to help check me out and keep her safe if I turned out to be a creepy guy? What do you guys think?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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El Don

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She probably just wanted to see how you would react and also get the opinion of you from her friends. I wouldnt worry about it but just ask her out again and if she brings her friends I would think you guys are just friends.
 

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she was never into you. detach now. if she had a coffee date with brad pitt do you think she would bring her two guy friends? no, she'd want to be alone with him.
 

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I've actually had this happen before with a girl that was making all the moves on me. She came to what i thought was a date with her friends along. I still don't really understand it. Perhaps its just manipulation, perhaps its some sort of test of worthiness. fukk if i know how to handle it. if anyone does i'd love to hear.
 

nonchalant

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a girl i dated told me she would do this to guys she had ljbf'ed who were just not getting it. if this girl is doing this to you, she does not care about you at all and is an AW biatch.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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hmm nonchalant may be right, but i have had a girl do this to me, and she was nuts over me. She just wanted her friend to approve me first too. I say don't NEXT her right away, set up another coffee and see if she's doing the same thing.
 

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El Don said:
She probably just wanted to see how you would react and also get the opinion of you from her friends. I wouldnt worry about it but just ask her out again and if she brings her friends I would think you guys are just friends.
No. She brings friends to feel safe and to establish a barrier.

You've been LJBF'd. Next girl.
 
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