"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Was I just LJBF'ed?

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So I just got back from a date with a hot girl I met through a painting class I was taking (not a university class, but one of those meet-once-a-week-for-fun classes for working stiffs like me take).

The last day of class we were looking at paintings in a museum. I thought I was getting some IOI's from her: She kept following me around, I firted with her and she flirted back, then at the end of the trip she gave me her e-mail and said we should hang out sometime.

I set up a coffee date for today to get to know her better. She shows up with her two friends! WTF! I played it cool and laid down some C+F stuff while talking to the group. I think I did a good job winning over the group. They were laughing a lot and seemed to like me. At the end of the "date" she said good-bye and made a few references about how we should see each other later.

So my question is, what's the deal with her bringing her friends along? Was she LJBF'ing me? Was she bringing them along to help check me out and keep her safe if I turned out to be a creepy guy? What do you guys think?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She probably just wanted to see how you would react and also get the opinion of you from her friends. I wouldnt worry about it but just ask her out again and if she brings her friends I would think you guys are just friends.
 
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she was never into you. detach now. if she had a coffee date with brad pitt do you think she would bring her two guy friends? no, she'd want to be alone with him.
 
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I've actually had this happen before with a girl that was making all the moves on me. She came to what i thought was a date with her friends along. I still don't really understand it. Perhaps its just manipulation, perhaps its some sort of test of worthiness. fukk if i know how to handle it. if anyone does i'd love to hear.
 
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a girl i dated told me she would do this to guys she had ljbf'ed who were just not getting it. if this girl is doing this to you, she does not care about you at all and is an AW biatch.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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hmm nonchalant may be right, but i have had a girl do this to me, and she was nuts over me. She just wanted her friend to approve me first too. I say don't NEXT her right away, set up another coffee and see if she's doing the same thing.
 
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El Don said:
She probably just wanted to see how you would react and also get the opinion of you from her friends. I wouldnt worry about it but just ask her out again and if she brings her friends I would think you guys are just friends.
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No. She brings friends to feel safe and to establish a barrier.

You've been LJBF'd. Next girl.
 
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