So, I'm traveling to another city for business. I tell a girl that I'm seeing where I'm going to be. She tells me that coincidentally she's going to be in the same city at the same time. She then says that "I can see you anytime" in our home city, and that she already has plans. We're not exclusive and I'm not upset that she had plans. Yet, the way she came across with the "I can see you anytime" felt like little slap in face, taking me for granted and made me want to say F - U , no you can't see me anytime you want. Am I being to sensitive & egotistical or was I disrespected and should I write her off?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Was I disrespected?
- Thread starter robertj
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
There's something you are leaving out here.
Did you ask her to hang out in that new city? Weird that she just straight up dissed you and said no, without you ever saying yes. If she did do that, I'd say look in the mirror and see if you are developing strong one-itis.
She already has plans in the other city.
You're not exclusive.
She thinks you're freely available at home city.
Show her you're not, stay busy and date other women.
It's not about disrespect, it's about her current mindset…
You're not exclusive.
She thinks you're freely available at home city.
Show her you're not, stay busy and date other women.
It's not about disrespect, it's about her current mindset…
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
she already has plans......(with another guy.)
So yes, that is disrespectful. Stop fvcking this woman before she gives you an STD.
So yes, that is disrespectful. Stop fvcking this woman before she gives you an STD.