"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Was i blind and stupid?

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Because i'm thinking I was.

OK here's the story

Me and friends are at the college dorms, partying it up. Then they go chris show is your magic on one of the girls here in the dorms. I'm like ok perfect time to test out my new DJ mindset.

They pick the girl an HB8 so i see her walking, doesn't pay me any mind and she walks into the computer lab.

well i go into the computer lab, sit down talk to her.. needless to say we broke out into a full on conversation about ****. I'm naturally a sarcastic guy. so the C+F was there. She laughed, asked me if i knew some peeps at the college i was going to.

My friends passed by a few times.. then one even came in and was like is he bothering you.

she looked at me and laughed and said no were having a conversation. ANYWAYS more time passes i think i was talkin with this girl for at least 20 or 30 minutes. Anyway my friends come back.. they're like chris were gonna go outside to have a smoke

I'm like cool, i'll be there she's like i'm gonna go down to, you should come so i'm like aiight, so i follow her to her dorm room and i was like so this is your room.

she's like yeah, but its messy so don't come in as she said smileing, and she pushed open the door and walked in but held it open for me.. I didn't go in LOL i figured she actually didn't want me to. Now that i think of it i think she kinda did.

Anyway we walk downstaires, she's smokeing my friends finish up smokeing they go back upstairs me and her start talking more outside.. then about another 20 minutes pass and my friends come down, they leave i stay. She's like well i gotta go back up to my room, and she paused.. i was like alright well i'll probably get outta here.. she's like ok cool and she put her arms out for a hug. so i hugged her.

I'm thinking i totally fuc*ed a perfectly good chance with a perfectly hot chick :(
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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oda

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shut up man, be optomistic... you didn't do anything wrong. At worst she might just think she has to work a little more for your intimacy
 
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Originally posted by christz
Because i'm thinking I was.

OK here's the story

Me and friends are at the college dorms, partying it up. Then they go chris show is your magic on one of the girls here in the dorms. I'm like ok perfect time to test out my new DJ mindset.

They pick the girl an HB8 so i see her walking, doesn't pay me any mind and she walks into the computer lab.

well i go into the computer lab, sit down talk to her.. needless to say we broke out into a full on conversation about ****. I'm naturally a sarcastic guy. so the C+F was there. She laughed, asked me if i knew some peeps at the college i was going to.

My friends passed by a few times.. then one even came in and was like is he bothering you.

she looked at me and laughed and said no were having a conversation. ANYWAYS more time passes i think i was talkin with this girl for at least 20 or 30 minutes. Anyway my friends come back.. they're like chris were gonna go outside to have a smoke

I'm like cool, i'll be there she's like i'm gonna go down to, you should come so i'm like aiight, so i follow her to her dorm room and i was like so this is your room.

she's like yeah, but its messy so don't come in as she said smileing, and she pushed open the door and walked in but held it open for me.. I didn't go in LOL i figured she actually didn't want me to. Now that i think of it i think she kinda did.

Anyway we walk downstaires, she's smokeing my friends finish up smokeing they go back upstairs me and her start talking more outside.. then about another 20 minutes pass and my friends come down, they leave i stay. She's like well i gotta go back up to my room, and she paused.. i was like alright well i'll probably get outta here.. she's like ok cool and she put her arms out for a hug. so i hugged her.

I'm thinking i totally fuc*ed a perfectly good chance with a perfectly hot chick :(
all ur doing by posting about it is whining,
no good comes out of re-living ur mistakes, and u sure wont learn from it until you are in similar situation n do it right.
 
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Originally posted by oda
shut up man, be optomistic... you didn't do anything wrong. At worst she might just think she has to work a little more for your intimacy
can i get a shut the fnck up for christz !!:p
 

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over analyzing has got to be the number one confidence killer
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Wiesman44

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Dude, there's a strong possibility you could have gotten that chick in to bed. But u have to look on the bright side. You approached her and chatted her up for 20 mins. Thats more than most guys would be able to do. So now your in good shape. Now the point is to get her to want to f#uck you instead of just be attracted to you.

Read up on some patterning skills, that will do the trick for ya.
 
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