"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Was I an ass for doing this?

Anti-Negative

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Today this girl who usually eats at my table, comes up to me and ask if her and a few of her friends could sit at my table. Instead of just saying "yes", I played around a little and said "I don't know, you guys kind of bore me" smiling so that she knew I was joking. Unfortunately I think the chick actually took it seriously since I heard her saying to her friend "Oh my god! [Friendsname], he said that we bored him" or something like that. End result the chicks didn't come back, no big deal. But was I an ass for saying this to her? I meant it in a joking way, but I don't know whether the girl took it personally or not.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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mpimpin

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Good stuff!! just have a laugh over it and don't sweat it. who cares what they thought or if she took it seriously. ........now if most people seem to take your jokes seriously then you might have a problem with the way you deliver them. But it sounds like you did things right. I wouldn't worry about it. :up:
 
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sounds funny to me but if u had a ****y smile on not a warm smile she mite have taken it wrong or shes blond:yes:

i luv blond girls the girl im flirting with atm (going out of town so havent asked her out) is blond but she is a friggin genius
 

i am me

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i dont see anything wrong wit that except how the girl acted..most girls woulda laughed n make some kinda comeback
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sounds like you were trying way too hard to neg hit..

You can neg hit.. yes. But just think about it, if what they are askin involves them getting around you.. or some physical contact. Just say yes.. it shows interest. Save the neg hitting for after they sit down.

Don't sweat it though. I have done worse.

I made a girl think I was a complete and utter pervert from trying too hard.

You just have to say **** them and move on.. or just lay low for awhile.
 

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Eh. You bore me?

"I don't know if you're quite cool enough to sit here" sounds better, more playful.


An ass? No.
Possibly wrong word? Yeah.
Worry about it? Not at all.
 
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