"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Warning: Do not read if you can't handle a venting 17 year old

jt the azn

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SHIIIITTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!! WWTTTTFFFFFFF!!!!! gndisnglenfglkneanljgfndsanfg1!!!!!!!
GOODDAAMMN PPAARRENTS!
AAHHH!!!!
I seriously do not see the reasoning behind my frickin dad banning me from ever going out!!! HE seriously does not want me to come the fuuucckkkk out! eVER!!!
I know that I need to focus more on school since this is the last year..... BUT THIS IS RIDICULOUS!!!! HES TRYING TO make my frickin life a social hell1!!!! HE EVen doews not want me to come out on weekends!! WHAT THE HELLLLL!!! AAAHAHFHADHDHF!!!!!!! I mean, Im studying really hard, but come on!!! School isnt everything!! HES trying to convince me and other people that going out is an evil thing that prevents success!!! Even my mom hates this fact about him!! I seriously hate talking to my dad cuz hes so anaal about everything!! Plus, he gets mad at me for the smallest reasons. I seriously cannot have a conversation with him without him raising his voice and acting like hes right all the frickkin time. AAAHH!!! (really loud and extravert hyperventing) Everyone thinks he's an A**hole

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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azanon

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You're 17; you have one foot out the door already. Patience grasshopper. In less than one year, you can't blame him anymore for any of that. If you stay, its because you choose to.
 

Capt.Jack Sparrow

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Jeez..

im glad my parents stopped hassling me when i was 15. after that I could do whatever the hell i wanted practicly. Now its even better!
 

joekerr31

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here is a truth that most adults aren't going to tell you.

most people grow up and really aren't that successful in life. they've acheived mediocrity at best.

then they have a couple of kids. and they think 'ok, im going to make sure my kids dont screw up the way i did. their lives are going to amount to more than mine has. they are going to become someone." and it doesn't matter what your parents job is. they can be a doctor and they can consider themselves a failure because they werent a neuro surgeon.

now they aren't going to tell you this. they aren't going to say 'son, i really am not very happy with my life. i have a lot of disappointments and i wish i could go back in time and do it all over again and make more out of myself. so while i can't do that, you can though and im going to make sure you do."

its quite sad really, when parents take out their failures on their children. and the kids can't understand why this insanity is being heeped upon them.

it sounds like your dad really lacks balance.

a happy life is about balance. which means when you work you should uwork hard. but when the work is done, you need to relax and have some fun.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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g g g unit

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joekerr31 - That's 100% true amen brother.
 

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Hmm, unfortunately you can't just leave them like I did (divorced parents, stopped seeing one similar situation). Wait for college, I've had restrictive parents all my life suffocating my social progress and outings, but in college they are no longer in charge. Get a dorm, stay "out of reach" so to speak, and be patient.
Other strategies include not trying to go out at all, do what you have with school, but become a vegetable otherwise. One thing I always did in those IM RIGHT GODDAMN IT situations is act like I really don't care about the matter,it's not important whether he's right or not. Good luck man.
 
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