"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wanting to date/Wierd situation

dave03hd

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I ran into my ex-wifes niece at a grocery store a few weeks back.(she is 33) I havn't seen her for quite some time. We had some small talk,and as we left each other,she said "maybe I'll run into you again". Now take that for what it's worth I guess. I had alway's liked her when I was married,and when we got together at family function's we alway's had fun. My problem is,is that I would like to go out with her,but don't know how to aproach it. I don't know where she live's,or her phone number. She is a DJ at a local radio station. I thought of calling her there,but I wouldn't know what to say(not the best at pick-up lines that don't sound stupid) On the other side of the coin,do I really want to (if we hook up)want to cause waves in her family,and ex-wifes,if we do. Like I say,I have alway's liked her,and I think she likes me.

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Confused
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Climax

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simple answer...

1) contact her one way or another.

2) speak to her and get to know her better + get her # number.

3) ask her if she would like to go for a lunch somewhere so the 2 of u could get to know eachother better.

4) See how things go, if u think she likes u and u like her, then u are set.

5) Make a date with her.

6) Dont think about what others will think (eg: her family etc) ... this is about YOU and HER, if u let others get in the way, then thats when things start going wrong.

hope that helps u... ;)

Laterz...
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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Originally posted by dave03hd
I ran into my ex-wifes niece at a grocery store a few weeks back.(she is 33) I havn't seen her for quite some time. We had some small talk,and as we left each other,she said "maybe I'll run into you again". Now take that for what it's worth I guess. I had alway's liked her when I was married,and when we got together at family function's we alway's had fun. My problem is,is that I would like to go out with her,but don't know how to aproach it. I don't know where she live's,or her phone number. She is a DJ at a local radio station. I thought of calling her there,but I wouldn't know what to say(not the best at pick-up lines that don't sound stupid) On the other side of the coin,do I really want to (if we hook up)want to cause waves in her family,and ex-wifes,if we do. Like I say,I have alway's liked her,and I think she likes me.

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Confused
Out of the millions of women in every imaginable place on earth, you had to choose her?
 

dave03hd

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Re: Re: Wanting to date/Wierd situation

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
Out of the millions of women in every imaginable place on earth, you had to choose her?
So your saying you don't believe in love(or whatever)at first sight?
This is kind of the feeling I got when I saw her.
 
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