"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"wanted to tell you I got you on my mind since last night" - how would U respond

Dante420

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I hung out with this group of kids (most of them for the first time), 1 gay kid and 2 girls.....finally I'm the alpha male! (lol just playing) anyway one of these girls is 2 years older than me and she's known OF me for a long time and was admitting some funny things (holding a grudge against my girlfriend because I was "hot" and she never talked to me) and then these people were telling me about how I'm so hot and everyone they know has a sexy nickname for me or wants my d*ck...interesting. So I leave these peoples house at 5 AM, left with nothing other than a back massage from said girl....


I get back to a text at my car that says "sorry if you think I'm weird but either way I really enjoyed chillin. Your pretty awesome"..............



.....then the next text she apoligized for her drunk friend being crazy and asked if me and her were chilling again

but this is the part I need help with, I just saw a Facebook message from her saying

"wanted to tell you I got you on my mind since last night, couldn't keep it to myself anymore. Sorry if this message makes you mad" and she ended the message with a sad face
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lol she appears to be ashamed of it )
 

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I just need to know if I should respond seriously and direct as she approached me or should I be funny and not serious?
 

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Haha she sounds nuts. Also sounds like she is already interested, all you have to do is be normal and not f*ck up!

I would tell you to just relax and be yourself and do what comes naturally, but since that seems to be the root of the problem itself for most people who come to this site, maybe it's not the best advice.

David DeAngelo would tell you to say something like
"Oh I am just fuming mad... why don't you make it up to me by cooking me dinner/buying me dinner/taking me bowling/whatever the f*ck you want."

If it were me I would just say "Yeah you definitely seem to be a little bit crazy. Want to join me for a drink/smoking weed/stealing bicycles/whatever some time?"

I don't think you have to worry about being Mr. Fantastic for every interaction, just be a normal dude. And to answer your question directly, don't be too serious. Just relax and have fun with it.

My 2 cents, but what the **** do I know anyways, right?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Furyguy said:
Haha she sounds nuts. Also sounds like she is already interested, all you have to do is be normal and not f*ck up!

I would tell you to just relax and be yourself and do what comes naturally, but since that seems to be the root of the problem itself for most people who come to this site, maybe it's not the best advice.

David DeAngelo would tell you to say something like
"Oh I am just fuming mad... why don't you make it up to me by cooking me dinner/buying me dinner/taking me bowling/whatever the f*ck you want."

If it were me I would just say "Yeah you definitely seem to be a little bit crazy. Want to join me for a drink/smoking weed/stealing bicycles/whatever some time?"

I don't think you have to worry about being Mr. Fantastic for every interaction, just be a normal dude. And to answer your question directly, don't be too serious. Just relax and have fun with it.

My 2 cents, but what the **** do I know anyways, right?

I really appreciate the answer and that's about right. You know how a boxer is trained to go 12 rounds? but at the end of each round he needs tips from his corner? SoSuave is my corner
 

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Dante420 said:
I really appreciate the answer and that's about right. You know how a boxer is trained to go 12 rounds? but at the end of each round he needs tips from his corner? SoSuave is my corner
If its gotten to this point you pretty much have to screw things up yourself. Just be cool, and isolate and **** asap. She wants it, so as long as you get her comfortable, its game on.
 
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