"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"wanted to tell you I got you on my mind since last night" - how would U respond

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I hung out with this group of kids (most of them for the first time), 1 gay kid and 2 girls.....finally I'm the alpha male! (lol just playing) anyway one of these girls is 2 years older than me and she's known OF me for a long time and was admitting some funny things (holding a grudge against my girlfriend because I was "hot" and she never talked to me) and then these people were telling me about how I'm so hot and everyone they know has a sexy nickname for me or wants my d*ck...interesting. So I leave these peoples house at 5 AM, left with nothing other than a back massage from said girl....


I get back to a text at my car that says "sorry if you think I'm weird but either way I really enjoyed chillin. Your pretty awesome"..............



.....then the next text she apoligized for her drunk friend being crazy and asked if me and her were chilling again

but this is the part I need help with, I just saw a Facebook message from her saying

"wanted to tell you I got you on my mind since last night, couldn't keep it to myself anymore. Sorry if this message makes you mad" and she ended the message with a sad face
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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lol she appears to be ashamed of it )
 

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I just need to know if I should respond seriously and direct as she approached me or should I be funny and not serious?
 

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Haha she sounds nuts. Also sounds like she is already interested, all you have to do is be normal and not f*ck up!

I would tell you to just relax and be yourself and do what comes naturally, but since that seems to be the root of the problem itself for most people who come to this site, maybe it's not the best advice.

David DeAngelo would tell you to say something like
"Oh I am just fuming mad... why don't you make it up to me by cooking me dinner/buying me dinner/taking me bowling/whatever the f*ck you want."

If it were me I would just say "Yeah you definitely seem to be a little bit crazy. Want to join me for a drink/smoking weed/stealing bicycles/whatever some time?"

I don't think you have to worry about being Mr. Fantastic for every interaction, just be a normal dude. And to answer your question directly, don't be too serious. Just relax and have fun with it.

My 2 cents, but what the **** do I know anyways, right?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Furyguy said:
Haha she sounds nuts. Also sounds like she is already interested, all you have to do is be normal and not f*ck up!

I would tell you to just relax and be yourself and do what comes naturally, but since that seems to be the root of the problem itself for most people who come to this site, maybe it's not the best advice.

David DeAngelo would tell you to say something like
"Oh I am just fuming mad... why don't you make it up to me by cooking me dinner/buying me dinner/taking me bowling/whatever the f*ck you want."

If it were me I would just say "Yeah you definitely seem to be a little bit crazy. Want to join me for a drink/smoking weed/stealing bicycles/whatever some time?"

I don't think you have to worry about being Mr. Fantastic for every interaction, just be a normal dude. And to answer your question directly, don't be too serious. Just relax and have fun with it.

My 2 cents, but what the **** do I know anyways, right?

I really appreciate the answer and that's about right. You know how a boxer is trained to go 12 rounds? but at the end of each round he needs tips from his corner? SoSuave is my corner
 

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Dante420 said:
I really appreciate the answer and that's about right. You know how a boxer is trained to go 12 rounds? but at the end of each round he needs tips from his corner? SoSuave is my corner
If its gotten to this point you pretty much have to screw things up yourself. Just be cool, and isolate and **** asap. She wants it, so as long as you get her comfortable, its game on.
 
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