"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Magnatolia

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Hi All,

I've been reading a lot about how people go from being an AFC to being cool, confident and able to attract lots of woman.

What I am looking for is what you actually did to make this transition? There's lots of advice on the forum, but nothing that actuallys says how you did this. Most responses are the same - don't worry about what people think, just do it, etc but how about actually telling us 'how' to do these things?

I mean, surely you didn't wake up one morning and suddenly not care what other people think.

I'm especially interested in more details on how you actually 'kino'd' the girl. I'm tired of reading 'I kino'd her all night', etc.

Looking forward to your responses.
Jason
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BrotherAP

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I'll be back to answer this. It's a good question.

But right now I'm going to bed.


BrotherAP :D
 

fyrefly

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Originally posted by Magnatolia
Hi All,

I've been reading a lot about how people go from being an AFC to being cool, confident and able to attract lots of woman.

What I am looking for is what you actually did to make this transition? There's lots of advice on the forum, but nothing that actuallys says how you did this. Most responses are the same - don't worry about what people think, just do it, etc but how about actually telling us 'how' to do these things?

I mean, surely you didn't wake up one morning and suddenly not care what other people think.

I'm especially interested in more details on how you actually 'kino'd' the girl. I'm tired of reading 'I kino'd her all night', etc.

Looking forward to your responses.
Jason
In short, i just tried to not care, and started acting like i didn't care, and at first i was just acting, but the more and more i did it, i realised the only person i have to answer to at the end of the day is me.

Engage strangers in conversation, talk to the checkout lady, talk to everybody, the more you adopt a "i dont care if this person likes me because there's another person over there that might" the more it'll become part of you.
 

Mr Spitfire

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I think we need a new shorter DJ bible.

Bombarding the incoherent with massive amounts of information written by experts is pointless.

You can't absorb the DJ bible in its entirety if you are clueless.

You have to understand whats motivating each specific woman and that you want to get affection. Motivate them to give you affection.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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