Jukeboxhero
Senior Don Juan
Okay, before I go into more detail about this I want to tell you a little about my current job. This is certainly a unique position that not a lot of guys find themselves in (at least IMHO) and I might have the opportunity to take advantage of it.
You see, it is my job to call dozens of girls everyday. I work for a hotel at the call center. I basically take all the incoming calls and of course--call around to about 25 or so hotels in the area to get their rates and rooms for the night. So in the process of doing this I'm pretty well known and have made some good casual phone friends with quite a few people.
I actually had the idea of asking people to hang out as friends a long time ago--it was even suggested to me once by a supervisor. Never really acted on it but since visiting dating sites I've decided it wouldn't be a bad idea to increase my circle of friends.
So I find out this one girl Keisha was having a Birthday this month. I told her she should invite me to one of her parties (she goes out a lot) and she said sure! Long story short we exchanged numbers and she invited me to go to an "Icebreaker at some Ballroom near where I live.
I called her about 10pm and she told she was on her way home from her second job and would call me when she got back, she also mentioned she might not have her I.D.
About 30 min later she calls and tells me she can't get a hold of her friend who she loaned her I.D. to. Also she wasn't sure if we needed tickets to get into the place.
So anyways, I decide I'm going to go with or without her. When I get there I see about a good 50 or so black guys standing one side and an equal amount of girls on the other. As time passes the line moves excruitatingly slow and I'm literally the only white male in a sea of african american dudes and a variety of females.
Now don't get me wrong. I really have no problem with any race but when I'm outnumbered about 200 to 1 I feel a bit uncomfortable. However, I decided to step out of my comfort zone and stick out to see what happened even after hearing about the possible $20 cover charge. That all changed when a fight broke out and the cops rushed in and kicked out about 6 homeboys.
At that point I called her back and asked if she had gotten her I.d. from her friend. Of course she hadn't got in contact so I told her I was going to Easton--a much friendlier atmosphere and one with no cover charge.
Much to my suprise she actually called me the next night from her Mom's house and asked if I still wanted to hang out. I acted somewhat reluctant because I had been helping my friend move a whole Uhaul full of furniture and I had to be at 5:30 am. Then she offered to call me back and possibly just hang out at the bar in her hotel for an hour or so. I went to bed early and never got a call back.
Now the main question is not how to attract her to me. Honestly I don't really expect her to be attractive and I'm really not sure if she is someone I would want to date or not--I just want more friends and she seems to have a nice personality and she's very social
Anyways, I did call her a few days later and asked if she wanted to hang out on Wednesday. I suggested a bar on campus but she said she didn't know where it was so I told her to call me back later and we would arrange something. I'm not sure if forgot or perhaps got the wrong message and thought I would be calling her but she hasn't called me back since then.
So I'm not sure if I'm making some mistakes here or not. I certainly don't want to scare a potential friend awayby calling her to much but I don't want to immediately dismiss someone who has never seen me and may have just got busy or whatever.
So what do you think I should do?
You see, it is my job to call dozens of girls everyday. I work for a hotel at the call center. I basically take all the incoming calls and of course--call around to about 25 or so hotels in the area to get their rates and rooms for the night. So in the process of doing this I'm pretty well known and have made some good casual phone friends with quite a few people.
I actually had the idea of asking people to hang out as friends a long time ago--it was even suggested to me once by a supervisor. Never really acted on it but since visiting dating sites I've decided it wouldn't be a bad idea to increase my circle of friends.
So I find out this one girl Keisha was having a Birthday this month. I told her she should invite me to one of her parties (she goes out a lot) and she said sure! Long story short we exchanged numbers and she invited me to go to an "Icebreaker at some Ballroom near where I live.
I called her about 10pm and she told she was on her way home from her second job and would call me when she got back, she also mentioned she might not have her I.D.
About 30 min later she calls and tells me she can't get a hold of her friend who she loaned her I.D. to. Also she wasn't sure if we needed tickets to get into the place.
So anyways, I decide I'm going to go with or without her. When I get there I see about a good 50 or so black guys standing one side and an equal amount of girls on the other. As time passes the line moves excruitatingly slow and I'm literally the only white male in a sea of african american dudes and a variety of females.
Now don't get me wrong. I really have no problem with any race but when I'm outnumbered about 200 to 1 I feel a bit uncomfortable. However, I decided to step out of my comfort zone and stick out to see what happened even after hearing about the possible $20 cover charge. That all changed when a fight broke out and the cops rushed in and kicked out about 6 homeboys.
At that point I called her back and asked if she had gotten her I.d. from her friend. Of course she hadn't got in contact so I told her I was going to Easton--a much friendlier atmosphere and one with no cover charge.
Much to my suprise she actually called me the next night from her Mom's house and asked if I still wanted to hang out. I acted somewhat reluctant because I had been helping my friend move a whole Uhaul full of furniture and I had to be at 5:30 am. Then she offered to call me back and possibly just hang out at the bar in her hotel for an hour or so. I went to bed early and never got a call back.
Now the main question is not how to attract her to me. Honestly I don't really expect her to be attractive and I'm really not sure if she is someone I would want to date or not--I just want more friends and she seems to have a nice personality and she's very social
Anyways, I did call her a few days later and asked if she wanted to hang out on Wednesday. I suggested a bar on campus but she said she didn't know where it was so I told her to call me back later and we would arrange something. I'm not sure if forgot or perhaps got the wrong message and thought I would be calling her but she hasn't called me back since then.
So I'm not sure if I'm making some mistakes here or not. I certainly don't want to scare a potential friend awayby calling her to much but I don't want to immediately dismiss someone who has never seen me and may have just got busy or whatever.
So what do you think I should do?