Ok so I met this girl tonight at the bars...friend of one of my really good friend. She's studying the same thing I am here at school and we have a lot of similar classes this semester. We were talking a little bit, but she had to go and by that time I was back at the table and she was still talking to my friend. My friend said she said it was "really nice meeting me". Anyway, we were talking about the times we had a certain class with the same professor, and she was saying how she was struggling. I told her I could help her out (AFC? I didn't think so, because I figure it is a good opportunity to hang out with her and show my intelligence, wit, etc.), and she said she might have to take me up on that. Stupidly I didn't ask for her number (blame it on the alcohol), so how should I go about getting it? From my friend if he has it? I almost think that's creepy, but I definitely got an interested vibe from this girl.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Want to get this girls number
- Thread starter YoungHOV
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
Is there any other way that you can see her? If it's your last resort then ask your friend but only if that's the only way that you can get in contact with her ever again.
nismo-4
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YoungHOV, I'm disappointed in you. Listen to Judge nismo-4 for a quick second!
If you want the girl's # and you wanna show you've got alpha male qualities, MAKE LIKE NIKE AND JUST DO IT!!!
Nothing is etched in stone here for a meeting/ date between you two. That's because you didn't build attraction there. Great minds think for themselves. Stop going off that "He say, She say bullsh*t." Go with your gut, as that's an alpha male quality and even if you get blown out, you were a strong man/ brave lion, not a weak boy/ cowardly snake.
You've been found guilty of hesitation, overanalyzation, procrastination, and no self motivation. This crime carries a fine of...MASTURBATION!!! And you also are sentenced to reside in Chumpville Beach, South Carolina. No relaxation, buddy.
Stop worrying whether some sh*t is AFC or not because by the time you make a move, the interest level will have been dropped or someone else has gotten her.
Case closed. Show me that you learned your lesson.
If you want the girl's # and you wanna show you've got alpha male qualities, MAKE LIKE NIKE AND JUST DO IT!!!
Nothing is etched in stone here for a meeting/ date between you two. That's because you didn't build attraction there. Great minds think for themselves. Stop going off that "He say, She say bullsh*t." Go with your gut, as that's an alpha male quality and even if you get blown out, you were a strong man/ brave lion, not a weak boy/ cowardly snake.
You've been found guilty of hesitation, overanalyzation, procrastination, and no self motivation. This crime carries a fine of...MASTURBATION!!! And you also are sentenced to reside in Chumpville Beach, South Carolina. No relaxation, buddy.
Stop worrying whether some sh*t is AFC or not because by the time you make a move, the interest level will have been dropped or someone else has gotten her.
Case closed. Show me that you learned your lesson.
nismo4-you're absolutely right. I dropped the ball on not getting her number. However, I could time it to run into her after her class. She told me the time she was in after we found out we had the same prof, and I have a class right by there after her class (my friend is in the same class as her and I usually wait up for him). Tuesday I will wait for her and approach.
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SInce you didn't make a move, her IL may not be high enough. Get it back up there and for god's sake GET THE F**KIN' # ON THE GODDAMN SPOT!!YoungHOV said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
How do you get her number? You wait until you see her again, you make some innocent small talk about her class, and say, "Hey I gotta run, but let's catch up later. What's your number?"
It's easy.
It's easy.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Seeing as you have a mutual friend, you could also just make sure he gets you two in the same spot again soon.YoungHOV said: