Ok so I met this girl tonight at the bars...friend of one of my really good friend. She's studying the same thing I am here at school and we have a lot of similar classes this semester. We were talking a little bit, but she had to go and by that time I was back at the table and she was still talking to my friend. My friend said she said it was "really nice meeting me". Anyway, we were talking about the times we had a certain class with the same professor, and she was saying how she was struggling. I told her I could help her out (AFC? I didn't think so, because I figure it is a good opportunity to hang out with her and show my intelligence, wit, etc.), and she said she might have to take me up on that. Stupidly I didn't ask for her number (blame it on the alcohol), so how should I go about getting it? From my friend if he has it? I almost think that's creepy, but I definitely got an interested vibe from this girl.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Want to get this girls number
- Thread starter YoungHOV
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
Is there any other way that you can see her? If it's your last resort then ask your friend but only if that's the only way that you can get in contact with her ever again.
nismo-4
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YoungHOV, I'm disappointed in you. Listen to Judge nismo-4 for a quick second!
If you want the girl's # and you wanna show you've got alpha male qualities, MAKE LIKE NIKE AND JUST DO IT!!!
Nothing is etched in stone here for a meeting/ date between you two. That's because you didn't build attraction there. Great minds think for themselves. Stop going off that "He say, She say bullsh*t." Go with your gut, as that's an alpha male quality and even if you get blown out, you were a strong man/ brave lion, not a weak boy/ cowardly snake.
You've been found guilty of hesitation, overanalyzation, procrastination, and no self motivation. This crime carries a fine of...MASTURBATION!!! And you also are sentenced to reside in Chumpville Beach, South Carolina. No relaxation, buddy.
Stop worrying whether some sh*t is AFC or not because by the time you make a move, the interest level will have been dropped or someone else has gotten her.
Case closed. Show me that you learned your lesson.
If you want the girl's # and you wanna show you've got alpha male qualities, MAKE LIKE NIKE AND JUST DO IT!!!
Nothing is etched in stone here for a meeting/ date between you two. That's because you didn't build attraction there. Great minds think for themselves. Stop going off that "He say, She say bullsh*t." Go with your gut, as that's an alpha male quality and even if you get blown out, you were a strong man/ brave lion, not a weak boy/ cowardly snake.
You've been found guilty of hesitation, overanalyzation, procrastination, and no self motivation. This crime carries a fine of...MASTURBATION!!! And you also are sentenced to reside in Chumpville Beach, South Carolina. No relaxation, buddy.
Stop worrying whether some sh*t is AFC or not because by the time you make a move, the interest level will have been dropped or someone else has gotten her.
Case closed. Show me that you learned your lesson.
nismo4-you're absolutely right. I dropped the ball on not getting her number. However, I could time it to run into her after her class. She told me the time she was in after we found out we had the same prof, and I have a class right by there after her class (my friend is in the same class as her and I usually wait up for him). Tuesday I will wait for her and approach.
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SInce you didn't make a move, her IL may not be high enough. Get it back up there and for god's sake GET THE F**KIN' # ON THE GODDAMN SPOT!!YoungHOV said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
How do you get her number? You wait until you see her again, you make some innocent small talk about her class, and say, "Hey I gotta run, but let's catch up later. What's your number?"
It's easy.
It's easy.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Seeing as you have a mutual friend, you could also just make sure he gets you two in the same spot again soon.YoungHOV said: