Want to confront this girl playing games, but how so I dont look like a D*ck??

[LostbutFound]

let me give you a little background on the subject before I get into my situation....For those of you who have read some of my posts, this girl was mentioned....

Anyway...I met this girl last summer, hit it off great...to make a long story short, she started liking my friend (I just got out of a relationship, was real defensive and wasnt really fun)...I wasnt pissed at that, what I was pissed about was that she was kind of using me to get to him...So anyways, time has gone by and she still is wierd with me...Never really returns calls or text messages(most times) or calls me late as hell and I dont talk to her.

So here's my situation...Im at a bar last night and she calls me, I havent heard from this girl in a while...I couldnt hear a word she said so I went into the bathroom to call her back and make sure everything is alright (I know, but its a bad habit, always gotta know if someone called me for help or not) and she didnt answer...Now I have had the idea for a long time to just confront her on her B.S. and tell her to take a hike...

I would like to know how you would confront her, let her know why I dont want to talk to her anymore, but dont look like Im whining or anything...I was just not gonna answer her calls no more (though it doesnt happen much anyway) but I know shes gonna wanna know why

so I was thinking of just answering her next call, kind of sound irritated to hear from her, and be like "Look, I dont want to sound harsh, but I dont want to talk with you no more...My friend told me that you wanted to hang out with just him...so I dont know why you even try to conversate with me...you dont answer my calls, you dissed me when I told you I was gonna be in your town and you wanted to hang out, and I dont think thats how you handle even your aquaintances...so Im not gonna stick around with a person thats gonna treat me like sh*t...when I know all you really care about talkin to is my friend...you dont need my help no more..."

Im sure this sounded a little desperate or whatever, but I just threw it out there as a start...What would you change or how would you let her know??

 

[myfriendblu]

This has been re-hashed many times before, do a site search Most DJ's here, if not all, agree that its never worth it to call a girl out on her BS. Does no good.

 

[LostbutFound]

Alright Ill check it out...But just to clarify, I wasnt gonna call her up then call her out on her B.S.....no way

I was gonna call her out on her B.S. if she called me...then i was gonna confront her...no way am i gonna call her up just to ***** at her...

 

[Scought]

Dude...I am in the same situation kinda. A girl has me stay the night at her house, tells me she wants to see me this weekend. So I call, and I havent heard from her....one time i got through, except Im not sure she knew I was calling....So i called one time and said this: Hey, its a little obvious you arent returning calls, I just wish you could have told me you dont want to talk or hang out..its a little childish....

I left it at that. I said my piece and I wasnt "harsh"

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by LostbutFound
Im sure this sounded a little desperate or whatever, but I just threw it out there as a start...What would you change or how would you let her know??

What you're suggesting is a little difficult without sounding childish and whiney... Let me ask you this -- what do you hope to accomplish? I mean, at the end of the day, after you've said your little piece, what do you hope will happen? What's the endgame?

 

[Scought]

GIO IS RIGHT

Gio is right...what I just posted is more a problem I have than with the girls. I let my pride get in the way and if I feel dissed, I have some issue with letting someone know that I know they are trying to pull one on me.

I just wanted her to know that what she was doing was childish. It was sort of a way of letting her know I was on to her game.....and i thought it was lame.

But Gio is correct, at the end of the day, it makes no difference, and I come across as biter. I just wish my pride wouldnt be so overbearing.

 

[LostbutFound]

To be honest, my end result I want to have is just simply make her realize that she hadnt given me a fair chance, and to realize the type of bull**** she has been throwing at me...

But now as Im writing this im kind of realizing that Im sure she does reaslize the bull**** she is doing...I guess the best thing to do it just ignore her calls and break off communication...sound right??

 

[Tango-Kid]

Why don´t you just leave her alone and find some other girl/girls??? Why do you even think about her or talk about her?

You´re using your time on her. Is she worth it?

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Many times in life, there are things we want to do and there are right reasons and wrong reasons for doing them. For example, you might want to hit a guy. In order to know if you would be justified in doing that, I would need to know why you want to do that. Because sometimes it's justified, and sometimes it isn't. Circumstances and intentions matter. If you wanted to hit a guy because you don't like the way he dresses, that's obviously different from hitting a guy to defend yourself or someone else.

In our relations with women, the same is sometimes true. In your case, you wanted to b*tch her out because you feel mistreated and slighted. But at the end of the day, it's not likely to make you feel any better -- in fact, you will probably end up feeling more angry and frustrated over her response. The reason for this is that if she truly has slighted and mistreated you somehow, she probably doesn't hold your thoughts or feelings in particularly high regard to begin with. That will lead to an uncaring, indifferent response to you spilling out your emotions, and that's likely to bother you just as deeply or more so than what she's already done. In the end you'll accomplish nothing except possibly embarrassing yourself.

When it's all said and done, if she cares about your feelings then there's no reason to b*tch her out. And if she doesn't care about your feelings, then no amount of b*tching her out is going to do any good.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

She disrespected you because 'you' allowed her to do it! Don't blame her as if she did something wrong, it was your weak responses and phone tag that put you in this situation. Why you guys try to talk to girls that aren't interested in you is beyond me.

When you pursue uninterested girls you are guaranteed to get disrespected and used. Don't cry foul!! She, and women in general, owe you nothing!!

Don't call her, this will show her that she has control of your emotions...and make your character look weak!

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by LostbutFound
I guess the best thing to do it just ignore her calls and break off communication...sound right??

There ya go. COMPLETE AND TOTAL NEXTING is in order.