"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Want to be confident? A change in focus is what your missing.

Sammo

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This was originally meant as a reply to Liks recent post, but i decided to make a thread.

Seduction starts at home... precisely. When you wake up in the morning you could meet a girl that day, or you could see one that you want to bone. Thats why.. the PU starts when you wake up, not when you first approach her. Every event in your day leading to the PU is in fact, the PU.

To much people focus on confidence. It's interesting, when you focus on being confident you are in a round about kind of way telling yourself you need confidence. If your confident, then there is no need to be focusing on it.

Confidence comes in the moment, the second from when you see her to the second that you walk towards her, that is the moment that you become confident. Not by focusing on your body language, not by focusing on a particular fact.

Its an act called being in 'flow'. What you want is 'flow'.

It is those moments that you just seem to do everything right without thinking about it. That is flow.

You are 'on'.

You talk to all the chicks, you are motivated to go to the gym, eating junk food doesnt even cross your mind, you are naturally alpha and everyone naturally respects you. You are the center of attention and you dont even need to focus.

So how do we achieve this? This, key to confidence. Be spontaneous. Flow is all about spontanuity (is that even a word? I sure as hell spelt it wrong if it is).

so to be confident one has to be spontaneous. Rather then focus on being confident focus on being in a good mood and you will naturally start to approach girls. A good mood is the only way to acheive this. Check out fingers work on boosting mind states, this post was only meant to highlight the importance of doing so
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fender

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Gotta love the flow!!!:cheer: Nice post sammo.

The "flow" is the exact reason why keyboard jokeying won't help you get girls- you can't learn to flow by READING, you gotta learn by DOING.

I'm starting to get a firmer grasp on it, but I needa be more consistent. BTW, which post by fingers are you referring to? I'd like to learn a bit mroe abotu this:D

thx.
 

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Nice post mate

btw its spelt spontaneity. no spell checker :cool:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Your right, I'm in one of these moods at this very moment (unfortunatly nobody is available to go out at this moment :cuss: Hopefully my current 'flow' continues to tomorrow).

HA, I'm waiting for someone to ask the method of getting into a good mood :trouble:
 
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