Want a girl? Stop giving a damm!

[downfallofdisbelief]

From all the past trial and error i've gone through (and I've gone through a lot!), I've found that when I stopped giving a damn about wanting a particular girl, or a girl in general, they seemed to flock to me like I was covered in 100 dollar bills!

This approach works in a lot of situations. Whether you have oneitis for a chick or you are stuck in the friends zone, its bound to help you, in one way or another.

In the past, when I've drifted towards the dreaded friends zone, I pretty much gave up on the girl and she started showing more signs of interest for some reason. Strange? Maybe. But if you really think about it, its causing tension. Tension because you stopped calling her every day. Tension because you dont change your plans to accomodate to hers. Tension be cause she CAN'T HAVE YOU.

Now, I'm not saying this works for EVERY friends-zone situation but It COULD save your ass before it gets to deep in that zone.

Another reason why "not giving a damn" will help you:

If you are able to harness not giving a damn with picking up chicks, you'll be saving yourself a lot of emotional baggage. Rejection won't seem so bad when you don't care about what she thinks to begin with! You'll be able to move on to the next chick and not think twice about what the last chick just said about your hair.

LTR's, this is where it could get tricky. You obviously give a damn since youre in the relationship. Just try not to get too carried away with it. Also, when in a jam w/ the girl, you can pull the whole "not caring" thing and she will almost always come back to you apologizing, even if its your fault!

After all, your the man. She's along for the ride, if she doesn't like it, she can go to hell. YOU DONT GIVE A DAMN!

 

[jiza101]

Hmm, yer. But the chick i want has like 10 dudes chasing her. I cant stand out by not doing anything or showing no interest about getting her and getting chicks in general because ill be quiet and not noticed?
What you think i need ideas :/

 

[downfallofdisbelief]

Well, first of all, it sounds like your chasing a popular BICCH who gets every other AFC after her so you might have some problems getting her attention in general.

In this situation, I would knock her of her pedistal by using a lot of neg hits and CF. She sounds like she doesnt get enough of that. But as for not being able to ignore her, WAKE UP MAN! youve got oneitis and you need to cut it off because it wont get you anywhere.

Sorry to be a bit harsh .

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

this is a good post, and i have proof its true as although im still improving, in my total AFC days i would still get asked out by girls, but never by a girl that i liked, because in my AFC days i would chase too much.

I have noticed that turning DJ from AFC is like braking a bad habbit, you improve slowly and the first sign is when you realise what you are saying is AFC and start saying and doing DJ things, obviously its going to take more then a month to become a good DJ.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by jiza101
Hmm, yer. But the chick i want has like 10 dudes chasing her. I cant stand out by not doing anything or showing no interest about getting her and getting chicks in general because ill be quiet and not noticed?
What you think i need ideas :/

Oh but you can. If you give her your attention then just stop shell want it back. Thatll make you stand out more than the others who are probably giving her constent attention.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

yes this is ture, but alos stand out form the crowd by using neg hits and C&F because if you do not then you will be the same as the others and she would not care is you stopped giving her attention because oyur attention is just like the other, but if you are diffrent she will not have any of this attention and she will want it

hope iv been a help

 

[Smooth as Anything]

I'd attribute this to a change in perception, not a change in reality. Techniques and theory are bull****... it all comes down to one thing: your ass.

You heard it first, folks...

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by downfallofdisbelief
Well, first of all, it sounds like your chasing a popular BICCH who gets every other AFC after her so you might have some problems getting her attention in general.

In this situation, I would knock her of her pedistal by using a lot of neg hits and CF. She sounds like she doesnt get enough of that. But as for not being able to ignore her, WAKE UP MAN! youve got oneitis and you need to cut it off because it wont get you anywhere.

Sorry to be a bit harsh .

I agree with down. Using neg hits and CF is the only type of attention you should give her, if given at all. Remember, you have to approve of her, not the other way around.

 

[Conscious]

Good post. The first step towards getting a girl is to stop trying to get girls.

It works for me.