She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That's exactly how it is.MrLuvr said:
Wanna bet?This is a great example of how differently attraction works for men and women. The mirror image of this situation hardly ever happens. No matter how deep the connection or how youthful the outlook, vanishingly few men will want a relationship with a much older, unattractive woman. They may want to be her friend, but they won’t want to **** her.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
"Wow" and "Smokin" I think are a bit much to describe this chick. I think she's a little above avg., but not anything I'd see in public where I'd get sexually tensed. But again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.realsmoothie said:His wife... WOW. Smokin'.