You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That's exactly how it is.MrLuvr said:
Wanna bet?This is a great example of how differently attraction works for men and women. The mirror image of this situation hardly ever happens. No matter how deep the connection or how youthful the outlook, vanishingly few men will want a relationship with a much older, unattractive woman. They may want to be her friend, but they won’t want to **** her.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"Wow" and "Smokin" I think are a bit much to describe this chick. I think she's a little above avg., but not anything I'd see in public where I'd get sexually tensed. But again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.realsmoothie said:His wife... WOW. Smokin'.