You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That's exactly how it is.MrLuvr said:
Wanna bet?This is a great example of how differently attraction works for men and women. The mirror image of this situation hardly ever happens. No matter how deep the connection or how youthful the outlook, vanishingly few men will want a relationship with a much older, unattractive woman. They may want to be her friend, but they won’t want to **** her.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
"Wow" and "Smokin" I think are a bit much to describe this chick. I think she's a little above avg., but not anything I'd see in public where I'd get sexually tensed. But again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.realsmoothie said:His wife... WOW. Smokin'.