"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Kirro

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Less computer, more outdoors.

No I'm serious. Beyond all the PUA alpha mimicking posturing crap, beyond your tone of voice & conversational skills, its good to actually have real life talent that actually can & will impress people. You shouldn't be faking till you make it, you should be faking while making it(if that makes sense).

Work on hobbies & interests. Work on your talents. I'm basically saying, play to your strengths.

Let me use myself as an example. I'm a west indian black guy..which means I own at sprinting(racist I know) but I'm fast as hell because well....DNA. I also swim, do yoga, lift weights & do martial arts. An easy way to get chicks to spend time with me is telling them what I do & saying I could teach them. One part of the whole dominant/submissive, male/female dynamic is that girls like to be taught stuff by guys, they love to follow our lead & learn something from us. Its almost like forming a bond.

There's a chick right now who has a bit of flab on her. She knows I'm all about fitness, she knows I'm working on becoming the most awesome being in the universe. She wants me to train her so she too can reach her maximum physical appeal. I lead, she follows. I've done this sort of thing earlier in my life, teaching girls how to play fighting games, teaching them basic karate, judo/wrestling, teaching them how to draw or how to write stories & poetry.

I'm not even going to stop there. I'm going to learn how to skate, how to play tennis & I'm going to train in either boxing or MMA. This site advocates action dates, well so does Kirro. When you have actual interests you can bypass movies or dinner & take them to something you like doing & while teaching her how to do(if she doesn't already know), you can tease, kino & escalate.

Like it or not, a conversation filled with nothing but negs & frail ass DHVs isn't going to cut it. You DHV by actually being of HV. So yeah, add this to your game. A dude who knows his sh!t is interesting as hell.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Doctrine Dark

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Yeah, I agree. Not that I don't enjoy coming on here, but I need to understand that I'm limiting myself by not going out gaining experience, while absorbing so much info without actually putting it to use in my life. I think the main reason why I do it is because I'm not sure how to go about pushing my comfort zone. So yeah, good topic, Kirro.
 

Vice

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Totally agree.

It's also really easy to talk to girls when it's something you're passionate about.

I surfed for the first time a few weeks ago and it's now my standard thing to talk about, and from there I branch out into all kinds of interesting things.

It makes me wonder what normal guys and chumps talk about.
 

zerocelcius

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Kirro said:
Less computer, more outdoors.

No I'm serious. Beyond all the PUA alpha mimicking posturing crap, beyond your tone of voice & conversational skills, its good to actually have real life talent that actually can & will impress people. You shouldn't be faking till you make it, you should be faking while making it(if that makes sense).

Work on hobbies & interests. Work on your talents. I'm basically saying, play to your strengths.

Let me use myself as an example. I'm a west indian black guy..which means I own at sprinting(racist I know) but I'm fast as hell because well....DNA. I also swim, do yoga, lift weights & do martial arts. An easy way to get chicks to spend time with me is telling them what I do & saying I could teach them. One part of the whole dominant/submissive, male/female dynamic is that girls like to be taught stuff by guys, they love to follow our lead & learn something from us. Its almost like forming a bond.

There's a chick right now who has a bit of flab on her. She knows I'm all about fitness, she knows I'm working on becoming the most awesome being in the universe. She wants me to train her so she too can reach her maximum physical appeal. I lead, she follows. I've done this sort of thing earlier in my life, teaching girls how to play fighting games, teaching them basic karate, judo/wrestling, teaching them how to draw or how to write stories & poetry.

I'm not even going to stop there. I'm going to learn how to skate, how to play tennis & I'm going to train in either boxing or MMA. This site advocates action dates, well so does Kirro. When you have actual interests you can bypass movies or dinner & take them to something you like doing & while teaching her how to do(if she doesn't already know), you can tease, kino & escalate.

Like it or not, a conversation filled with nothing but negs & frail ass DHVs isn't going to cut it. You DHV by actually being of HV. So yeah, add this to your game. A dude who knows his sh!t is interesting as hell.
I thought you were asking, not telling. "A conversation filled with nothing but negs & frail ass DHVs isn't going to cut it" is just as true as "A conversation all about yourself leads up to you going home with the main topic".... Think about it.

Glad to see you are focusing on yourself! Just don't make that the main topic of the conversation. :nono:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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