"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Kirro

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Less computer, more outdoors.

No I'm serious. Beyond all the PUA alpha mimicking posturing crap, beyond your tone of voice & conversational skills, its good to actually have real life talent that actually can & will impress people. You shouldn't be faking till you make it, you should be faking while making it(if that makes sense).

Work on hobbies & interests. Work on your talents. I'm basically saying, play to your strengths.

Let me use myself as an example. I'm a west indian black guy..which means I own at sprinting(racist I know) but I'm fast as hell because well....DNA. I also swim, do yoga, lift weights & do martial arts. An easy way to get chicks to spend time with me is telling them what I do & saying I could teach them. One part of the whole dominant/submissive, male/female dynamic is that girls like to be taught stuff by guys, they love to follow our lead & learn something from us. Its almost like forming a bond.

There's a chick right now who has a bit of flab on her. She knows I'm all about fitness, she knows I'm working on becoming the most awesome being in the universe. She wants me to train her so she too can reach her maximum physical appeal. I lead, she follows. I've done this sort of thing earlier in my life, teaching girls how to play fighting games, teaching them basic karate, judo/wrestling, teaching them how to draw or how to write stories & poetry.

I'm not even going to stop there. I'm going to learn how to skate, how to play tennis & I'm going to train in either boxing or MMA. This site advocates action dates, well so does Kirro. When you have actual interests you can bypass movies or dinner & take them to something you like doing & while teaching her how to do(if she doesn't already know), you can tease, kino & escalate.

Like it or not, a conversation filled with nothing but negs & frail ass DHVs isn't going to cut it. You DHV by actually being of HV. So yeah, add this to your game. A dude who knows his sh!t is interesting as hell.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Doctrine Dark

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Yeah, I agree. Not that I don't enjoy coming on here, but I need to understand that I'm limiting myself by not going out gaining experience, while absorbing so much info without actually putting it to use in my life. I think the main reason why I do it is because I'm not sure how to go about pushing my comfort zone. So yeah, good topic, Kirro.
 

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Totally agree.

It's also really easy to talk to girls when it's something you're passionate about.

I surfed for the first time a few weeks ago and it's now my standard thing to talk about, and from there I branch out into all kinds of interesting things.

It makes me wonder what normal guys and chumps talk about.
 

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Kirro said:
Less computer, more outdoors.

No I'm serious. Beyond all the PUA alpha mimicking posturing crap, beyond your tone of voice & conversational skills, its good to actually have real life talent that actually can & will impress people. You shouldn't be faking till you make it, you should be faking while making it(if that makes sense).

Work on hobbies & interests. Work on your talents. I'm basically saying, play to your strengths.

Let me use myself as an example. I'm a west indian black guy..which means I own at sprinting(racist I know) but I'm fast as hell because well....DNA. I also swim, do yoga, lift weights & do martial arts. An easy way to get chicks to spend time with me is telling them what I do & saying I could teach them. One part of the whole dominant/submissive, male/female dynamic is that girls like to be taught stuff by guys, they love to follow our lead & learn something from us. Its almost like forming a bond.

There's a chick right now who has a bit of flab on her. She knows I'm all about fitness, she knows I'm working on becoming the most awesome being in the universe. She wants me to train her so she too can reach her maximum physical appeal. I lead, she follows. I've done this sort of thing earlier in my life, teaching girls how to play fighting games, teaching them basic karate, judo/wrestling, teaching them how to draw or how to write stories & poetry.

I'm not even going to stop there. I'm going to learn how to skate, how to play tennis & I'm going to train in either boxing or MMA. This site advocates action dates, well so does Kirro. When you have actual interests you can bypass movies or dinner & take them to something you like doing & while teaching her how to do(if she doesn't already know), you can tease, kino & escalate.

Like it or not, a conversation filled with nothing but negs & frail ass DHVs isn't going to cut it. You DHV by actually being of HV. So yeah, add this to your game. A dude who knows his sh!t is interesting as hell.
I thought you were asking, not telling. "A conversation filled with nothing but negs & frail ass DHVs isn't going to cut it" is just as true as "A conversation all about yourself leads up to you going home with the main topic".... Think about it.

Glad to see you are focusing on yourself! Just don't make that the main topic of the conversation. :nono:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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