"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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walking past hotties that you will probably never see again

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i'm at uni, and while i'm walking around i walk by several hot/smart girls everday, and it pisses me off that i'll probably never see a lot of these chicks again. It's not like i can just grab her as she's walking past and just start talking to her.

it's just a big disappointment for me everytime i walk past a hottie at uni and then i realise i'll probably never get to see that chick again or talk to her ever.
Have any of you guys thought about this? it just seems like a waste that i'm walking past several chicks a day that i'd probably have an awesome time with.

i hope you get my drift, it's late, i'm drowsy and this **** was just on my mind
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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lol, how about you look at her as you walk by and say hi.. and keep on walking. I think youre practicing needless mental mastrubation, you might as well get something useful out of it, like confidence to say hi like you mean it.
 

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Find a band or club night to help promote, have some flyers on you everywhere you go, then use it as an excuse to stop the hottie.
 

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DXX said:
i'm at uni, and while i'm walking around i walk by several hot/smart girls everday, and it pisses me off that i'll probably never see a lot of these chicks again. It's not like i can just grab her as she's walking past and just start talking to her.

it's just a big disappointment for me everytime i walk past a hottie at uni and then i realise i'll probably never get to see that chick again or talk to her ever.
Have any of you guys thought about this? it just seems like a waste that i'm walking past several chicks a day that i'd probably have an awesome time with.

i hope you get my drift, it's late, i'm drowsy and this **** was just on my mind
If it bothers you.....you should say hi and introduce yourself. At least try it. It's better then regretting it later. COLLEGE IS A HUGE OPPORTUNITY. DON'T BLOW IT.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DXX said:
i'm at uni, and while i'm walking around i walk by several hot/smart girls everday, and it pisses me off that i'll probably never see a lot of these chicks again. It's not like i can just grab her as she's walking past and just start talking to her.

it's just a big disappointment for me everytime i walk past a hottie at uni and then i realise i'll probably never get to see that chick again or talk to her ever.
Have any of you guys thought about this? it just seems like a waste that i'm walking past several chicks a day that i'd probably have an awesome time with.

i hope you get my drift, it's late, i'm drowsy and this **** was just on my mind
Welcome to my life. It doesn't always improve after college, either. I'm not a guy who asks for a number after a two minute conversation... and I don't see these chicks for a long time.

I have some ladies that I'm interested in inviting to coffee. I haven't seen them in 2 and a half months.

I suppose it's one of those thing where you either have to BECOME somebody who can ask a woman for the number after two minutes, or you have to figure out ways of seeing them more often so they get to know you.
 

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Hmmm ... here is an idea ... just come to the conclusion that this world his full of hotties and every time you see a hot chick you do not have the time to talk to remind yourself that there are zillions of them out there, hopefully many with great non-crappy personalities. And if you find that you start seeing a frequency of some of the hotties often, why not just be the attractor this website is trying to help you be and start attracting the girl? Sometimes all it takes to attract one of these hotties is an opportunity to catch her stagnant somehwhere where you can start an indirect 'not focused on her at all' conversation with someone or people close to her that displays many of your fine positive qualities. If she finds you the least bit attractive, she might chime in and ask you your name or something. Wherewith you can reward her by showing interest back to her. It works for me ...
 

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Seize the day, soldiers. Always take the shot. Nothing helps you sleep better at night like KNOWING you at least TOOK THE SHOT...
 

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Nighthawk said:
Find a band or club night to help promote, have some flyers on you everywhere you go, then use it as an excuse to stop the hottie.
Damn! Thats actually a pretty good idea dude. Good way for the shy guys to approach with confidence.
 

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ValleyDJing said:
Damn! Thats actually a pretty good idea dude. Good way for the shy guys to approach with confidence.
If you've got the time, start asking for donations for some good cause - help the animals or whatever. Instant DHV to most girls...

or

You could actually just make eye contact, smile, if she smiles back, come up and ask, "Hey Kelly" she's probably going to say no... but then you're talking.. take it from there... this way there is just no need for as much of a BS excuse to talk.

Or

My favority, "Hi, I'm Mike". And yes, stope people! No girl is ever going to get offended if all you do is strike up a conversation with her...

Go from there...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ExploringOne said:
If you've got the time, start asking for donations for some good cause - help the animals or whatever. Instant DHV to most girls...

Ummm...i know i've been here a while, but what's DHV? I feel like I should know the SS lingo by now. lol!
 

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You're lucky I'm in a good mood, so I'm not gonna make you feel stupid for, you for not taking 10 seconds to search...

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wtf are you guys talking about? i meant just WALKING past girls who are also WALKING.

Say you're walking past a hottie on the street. You're both going in OPPOSITE directions. That chick might've been awesome, but you'll never know because its retarded to stop a stranger as they're walking past and start talking to them
 

rakishness

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DXX said:
wtf are you guys talking about? i meant just WALKING past girls who are also WALKING.

Say you're walking past a hottie on the street. You're both going in OPPOSITE directions. That chick might've been awesome, but you'll never know because its retarded to stop a stranger as they're walking past and start talking to them
It is only RETARDED until you see someone DO IT. When I was an underclassmen in college I thought the SAME thing. I thought "how can you just talk to a complete stranger". If the girl ACTUALLY is ATTRACTED to you...breaking social convention WONT matter. Don't make the mistake of MANY young college males. Because while you are AFRAID to look stupid and approach...there are about a zillion other guys who are not. And college girls get hit on A LOT. So it is important not to pass over an opportunity with a girl who may like you. Also...college street approaches are not TRUE cold approaches. Because every girl that you comes accross already knows certain things about you. Like your age range and what shcool you go to...etc.

Here is a good quote from the 48 laws of power.
"....But if we play by those rules too strictly, if we take them too literally, we are crushed by those around us who are not so foolish."
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Victory Unlimited said:
Seize the day, soldiers. Always take the shot. Nothing helps you sleep better at night like KNOWING you at least TOOK THE SHOT...
Some truth. I have a zero percent success rate since reading this site, but I am taking more shots. And in a weird way, it's easier to sleep knowing you got rejected than it is wondering if you would have been.
 

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And in a weird way, it's easier to sleep knowing you got rejected than it is wondering if you would have been.
Hey, that's very, very true man. Why the FUUK do I always forget that, especially in heat of the moment? Dammit, I'm gonna remind myself of this a hundred times a day until it sinks in.
 
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danielzxc said:
Hey, that's very, very true man. Why the FUUK do I always forget that, especially in heat of the moment? Dammit, I'm gonna remind myself of this a hundred times a day until it sinks in.
Damn, I thought you were banned, dead, or something!!
 

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In many places of Spain, not Barcelona, but yes Madrid, it is considered WEIRD NOT TO SPEAK UP to a stranger that looks at you on the street!
 
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