"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Walking Down The Street

DOTD

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I don't know why it's so hard for me to walk down the street without looking straight ahead most of the time. I'm pretty shy as you can imagine, but I know it's also common for people who don't have a lot of confidence. The thing is, I know I look good, dress good..etc it's like a habit of looking down at the ground at 10 seconds, People who are walking down the street who look straight ahead the whole time ..without turning their heads look like walking stiffs, what are they looking at? Besides scenary that isn't changing. It's better to have your head up and look around, no? Or focus on sidewalk ahead.. Look at cars..etc

I am over analyzing I know, I just need to brake this habit. I am a pretty confident person, moreso now then I've ever been I just can't get over this.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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philly_95

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DOTD you say that you have don't have a lot of confidence and are very shy.

Let me ask you a question? So if you see an attractive one when you are walking past her what do you do? Do you keep your head down and ignore her?

If you go to the main page of sosuave go to the articles and quick tips section and look at the following articles:

Eye Contact Tip
Straight In the Eyes
Distinguishing Yourself
Look Into My Eyes

check out the forums to, there is a good post on eye contact.
 

Cannon_96

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DOTD, you are a disgrace to men everywhere! Just kidding dude. But seriously, you gotta keep your head up! If you do that, you'll look way more confident.
 

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force yourself to do it and force yourself to progress. People lacking these basic skills must force it otherwise they will get no where or it will take a very long time

it all comes down to how bad you want it
 

DOTD

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Thanks Guys. I've been reading a lot on here and have learned much in the process. I don't know why it was so hard for me to understand that I am the only person holding me back and it just seems so silly to me now that I've been acting like I have over the past years without much confidence/self-esteem ..it comes down to ME. I Have control over it. One of the quotes I read on here really hit home:

"Its funny. You spend all this time worrying about what people think about you and then one day you wake up and realize that nobody really cares".

It just clicked and I basically said to myself "Why the hell am I torturing myself with all this negative thoughts and constantly worried about what others think". Thanks Again :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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