I've been separated from my wife for 5 months,and believe me, once I let go, it was a good for me. I'll never let a woman walk all over me again. If I know I'm right, I will not change for her approval. She can apologize to me. If she doesn't, it wasn't meant to be. If I'm wrong, I will apologize without groveling. If she accepts it, we move forward. If she doesn't, it wasn't meant to be.
About the time my wife decided to leave, I started seeing this girl at work (I know - bad idea). She had a boyfriend of 4 years, but she was giving me oral in the stairwell, sex anywhere I wanted it, and whatever else. She only did it when it was convenient. Only when it was easy to hide. She filled my head up with future plans and made me believe that she was going to leave him once the year was over because he was going through a tough time. Well, the new year came, and she just got back from a 2 week vacation. She would not make plans to spend time with me. When I showed any resistance, she'd get mad at me and tell me that nothing she ever did was enough. Then she broke things off with me, but still wanted to be my friend.
To me being a friend isn't a good idea. She gets to have me around while she gets over me while I still have some feelings. So, I've cut her off completely. She calls my desk occasionally, but I always ignore her calls. I haven't contacted her since Monday. Yesterday she saw me in the hall and asked how I was doing. I said ok and turned around. She immediately walked down the hall to me and started rubbing my hair and asking about my haircut. I told her not to do that (with a smile of course) and stepped onto the elevator. Later that day I answered her phone call on my desk phone by mistake. She said a snide remark and then asked me to do something for her. I told her I'd see what I could do and hung up. Then I never did the favor.
I haven't talked to her or initiated any conversation. For some reason, even though she's bad news for me, I'm still dwelling on it. Wondering if she'd come back. Am I doing the right thing here?
About the time my wife decided to leave, I started seeing this girl at work (I know - bad idea). She had a boyfriend of 4 years, but she was giving me oral in the stairwell, sex anywhere I wanted it, and whatever else. She only did it when it was convenient. Only when it was easy to hide. She filled my head up with future plans and made me believe that she was going to leave him once the year was over because he was going through a tough time. Well, the new year came, and she just got back from a 2 week vacation. She would not make plans to spend time with me. When I showed any resistance, she'd get mad at me and tell me that nothing she ever did was enough. Then she broke things off with me, but still wanted to be my friend.
To me being a friend isn't a good idea. She gets to have me around while she gets over me while I still have some feelings. So, I've cut her off completely. She calls my desk occasionally, but I always ignore her calls. I haven't contacted her since Monday. Yesterday she saw me in the hall and asked how I was doing. I said ok and turned around. She immediately walked down the hall to me and started rubbing my hair and asking about my haircut. I told her not to do that (with a smile of course) and stepped onto the elevator. Later that day I answered her phone call on my desk phone by mistake. She said a snide remark and then asked me to do something for her. I told her I'd see what I could do and hung up. Then I never did the favor.
I haven't talked to her or initiated any conversation. For some reason, even though she's bad news for me, I'm still dwelling on it. Wondering if she'd come back. Am I doing the right thing here?
