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I gotta give you some tough love, playa.
No, you didn't overact, but you weren't
active in the
right kind of way.
And that is a common theme with most guys, they are wayyy to reactive, instead of being proactive.
So I’ve been dating this girl that I met last month and we have been vibing. We have a lot in common, conversations flow, and we honestly have fun being together. We’ve been on about 4 dates together and on the last date we had, I walked out on her.
Too much non sexual attention with no ROI (return on investment).
You should have made a move for sex after the first date (or if you are me, BEFORE the first date).
And if she displayed low or zero signs of reciprocation, then there wouldn't have been a second, third, or fourth date.
On our second date she invited me to go out with her and her sister for some drinks and on the third date we went to a little beach yoga class and then grabbed dinner afterwards. While at dinner, we were vibing had 2-3 drinks each, takin pictures and were even the last people to leave the restaurant.
Which meant absolutely nothing.
Because let me guess; you picked up the tab, correct?
And even if you didn't, that was still a lot of non-sexual time wasted.
So even if you didn't lose money, you lost time.
At the end of the dinner, I did not sense that the green light to kiss her was full on but I still took my shot to show my intent. She was walking in front of me and I pulled her shirt and hugged her tight. She gave me a surprised look so I just kissed her in the cheek and told her that I wanted to kiss her but I wasn’t going to do it just yet.
I commend you for going for the kiss.
The problem is, you waited too late to go for it.
She gave you a surprised look after you went in for the kiss...and this is on the second date.
So, assuming she would have reacted the same way towards your actions had you went in for a kiss after the
first date, you would have been better off going for the kiss on the first date...which would be a red flag for you not to waste time on a second date if you can't even get a kiss after the first.
The following week she invited me to go out to salsa club event. She said the venue was having a 1 year anniversary and if I were down to go. I said sure, so I picked her and we rode out that night. When we got there, she said hi to her friend and her friend’s bf who she knew were going to be at the venue. After saying hi to them, she goes off to another table to say hi to some dude and his group. She stayed over at that table for about 5 minutes chatting with him and his friends while I stayed with her friend and the bf.
The night rolled on and we danced, took pics, had some drinks etc. but I notice that the guy she said hi to would come around our table and chat her up every once in a while and basically trying to run game on my chick.
Then on one occasion, he’s there joking with her and laughing, hugs her from the side and then tells her something about “let’s go to that side of the club and watch the live band” she laughs, hesitates for a bit and then goes with him.
At this Point I say fvck this, I call the waiter and pay for my drinks. I come back to the table and start chatting with the friend’s bf for a bit, contemplating whether I should leave or not. She comes back to the table within 10 minutes or so. She asks me to dance again so I did. But at this point, I’m not having fun anymore and she can tell.
I tell her “let’s leave in 30 because I have to wake up early tomorrow. She said she wants to stay and watch the next band that’s going to perform but she can leave in an Uber. So I said “cool, well I’m gonna go”. I say bye to her and her friends and I was on my way. She didn’t stop me from leaving or anything. Simply let me leave. haven’t spoken to her since.
Did I over react ? Even though our relationship wasn’t anything established or anything due to the fact that we haven’t kissed but at the same time, she did arrive to the place with me.
I feel it would’ve been a slap to my face if I stuck around and then taken her home after walking off with that guy. Thoughts ?
Sorry you had to go through that, man.
That is why I will continue to advocate Mode One philosophy, which either eliminates bullsh!t like that, or cuts through it.
