Walk slower and SMILE

[sharpshooter]

I've learned this after years and years of constantly walking fast and having a frown on my face (I'm still guilty of it sometimes, like today). A lot of people might take walking slow as being unenergetic or even lazy, but it's all in how you do it. Now don't walk like a slow slouch or an unmotivated person. There's a way to walk slow and just command respect. First, keep your shoulders back, head up, and move your legs at a slow but natural speed. Imagine you're god walking on heaven's clouds.

Also make sure that you've got a smile or a smirk on your face (don't need me to tell you how to do this, just think of something positive/remain happy). All of this will feel weird at first, but eventually you'll get used to it. If you're not comfortable walking like this alone at first, do it when you're just out with some buds or something. Guaranteed you'll be turning some heads!

The difference it makes is undeniable, body language tells people who you are and how you feel right off the bat.

 

[splinterkb]

Doing things slow makes you appear confident in what you're doing. I have noticed this through-out the years.

 

[4afe]

^^ Yeah. Ever noticed how EVERY THING looks bad a$$ in slow motion? Same way in real life, just dont do the "slow-voice"

 

[sharpshooter]

Originally posted by 4afe
^^ Yeah. Ever noticed how EVERY THING looks bad a$$ in slow motion? Same way in real life, just dont do the "slow-voice"

Yeah. I first noticed it when I saw Shawn Michaels enter the ring at a super slow pace, yet he looke so powerful/energetic/confident doing it

 

[Duke]

No doubt. SLOWING DOWN-- slowing down your movements, your speech, EVERYTHING-- will physiologically give you MUCH more confidence. So will smiling. It does the exact same thing. Physiologically it puts you in a good mood and makes you more confident.

However, I don't reccomend smiling all the time around girls. Don't get caught up in a "perma-smile" or you will just look creepy. Definitely exercise those smiling muscles but don't wear a smile mask.

Another thing I'd add to this list is FACIAL EXPRESSION. Lots of times when people get nervous, their faces tend to be less expressive when they speak. Try to work on this. Imagine that you are an actor playing yourself if this helps you (it helps me). When your face is static, you come across as dull and boring. When your face is lively and moving, you come across in a much more charismatic fashion. Also, facial expressions can make or break physical comedy. Check out Jim Carrey, "Old Rubber-Face." He can get belly-laughs out of people just by making stupid expressions.

Anyways, most important thing is slow down, Speedy.

 

[NatureGuy]

Excellent advice ! The problem I have though is even when I think I'm smiling I look in a mirror and I don't appear to be smiling...

 

[smooth666]

to natureguy

I used to be a non-smiler myelf. Practice the "duchenne smile" (which is scientifically proven the only true smile) (google it!). Work out your smiling muscles around the mouth and the eyes (they are in my opinion the most important muscles to work on anyway...). Eventually your face look more "happy" and smiling will not be a big deal.

 

[Dirtheart]

I read about this in the tips section some time ago and since I've been practising it, I've found it to be one of the most useful things I've come across.

When you slow down, you do look way more confident. I mean, have you ever seen someone walk by and he just looked important? The one thing you'll notice is that he is taking his time.
What's more, you also have a lot more control over what you are doing and saying, and are less prone to clumsy mistakes.

If you want to take it a step further, have a go at Time Distortion by Richard Bandler. It allows you to slow your perception of time (kind of like bullet time in the Matrix but less dramatic) and react quicker.

I have developed my own method of this by listening to music. You take music with a beat (or just a drum beat or a metronome) and concentrate on the space in between the beat. After an hour of doing this you will find yourself in a very lucid and alert state of mind.

 

[Beethoven]

Hehe, you've inspired me guys, I need more smiling practice! I've been doing a big ear-to-ear grin for about 5 minutes now.

And it's really starting to hurt!

Come on, grin with me...

 

[ryanvalmont]

GREAT THREAD,from somebody who has now elarnt how to walk slow 100%...you get ALOT OF ATTENTION!

Girls seems to just be transfixed on you because you look sooo god damm smooth!

Ryan Valmont

 

[MtnBikingGuy]

So fvcking true!

I read about this over on mASF and it's true! I used to be the look at the ground walk so fast most people would have to jog to keep up with me type of walker. Now I'm slow, deliberate and keep my head up/shoulders back with a small smirk on my face. I would even say almost a strut, not quite but almost. Woman DO notice.

For additional affect, the other thing you can do is whenever you enter a door, pause a moment and s-l-o-w-l-y scan the room. I usually top it off with removing my sunglasses and putting them in my shirt pocket, before I scan the room. $hit, do I feel alpha when I do this.

Cheers!

 

[Paintballguy]

I dont know how or why but I have a natural smile, I cant help not smiling. I notice I get a lot of attention from women, I dont know if its from my confience, smile or looks. But the bottomline is I get attention from women due to how I carry myself which includes walking slow and smiling.

 

[CoOLBanana]

Do not smile like you're happy to see girls.

Smile like you have 100 million dollars in your bank account and 10 ferrari cars in your garage and you won't tell.

Smile like you know some thing everyone doesn't.

..hope this helps.

 

[San]

Now there's a point on how to "show" confidence> now i say "show" in particular because it's probably not your kind of walk.
OK, let's be honest; it's better to walk more confident but in my opinion it's best to stay yourself, and in that way you atrract a woman who is interested in YOU! and not in how you "show" yourself.

Just be yourself and don't fake it.

 

[San]

but thing is: we all know the majority of women are attracted to confident man.