"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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walk away or be more understanding?

xectxny19x

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Fellas! I need some insight from you! I realize I'm still very much an AFC, since I still feel wrong about dating multiple women!! :eek:

Right now, there are 2 girls who I think are flakey.

Girl #1: She's been calling & leaving msgs. I haven't called back, b/c I had finals. Well, finally, I txt her back. Here are the important snippets:

Me: r u free next weekend?
Her: oh. i'm going to CA this Thursday & won't be back until next Thursday. :cry: I hope we can do something when I come back? :eek:
Me: CA sounds like fun. :D ttyl.

Now here's the problem. Was there a miscommunication? I distinctly txt her 'next weekend' & not this weekend. What's up with this?

Girl #2: Well, I just met this girl.

Her: I'm up for doing anything outdoorsy.
Me: Let's go King's Dominion this Sunday.
Her: Oh. I've got something going on this Saturday. We should meet up for a drink or something another day.

Ok I asked this girl out for Sunday not Saturday. She wants to do something outdoorsy but backs out for grabbing something to drink instead. Am I being irrational? It seems like these two girls' interest in me aren't high enough, since they both misinterpreted or act like they don't know when exactly I'm asking them out.

What do you fellas think? I realize I lean more towards anti-dump's teachings. That's why this is raising red flags in my head. :woo:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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girlsarecrazy

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Girl #1 sounds good.

Girl #2 is flakey usually they'll make their excuse clear if they have high interest. She just said she's got "something" going on.
 

Maestro Monk

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I'll second what's said above..#1 sounds like higher interest, but I would definately not write off either one of these..main reason being that they both counter-offered your invitation. Invite 'em out again sometime, but make sure you have other prospects.
 

2easy

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if their interest level is high, they will reschedule with you. You have a better chance with girl 1.
 
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