"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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walk away or be more understanding?

xectxny19x

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Fellas! I need some insight from you! I realize I'm still very much an AFC, since I still feel wrong about dating multiple women!! :eek:

Right now, there are 2 girls who I think are flakey.

Girl #1: She's been calling & leaving msgs. I haven't called back, b/c I had finals. Well, finally, I txt her back. Here are the important snippets:

Me: r u free next weekend?
Her: oh. i'm going to CA this Thursday & won't be back until next Thursday. :cry: I hope we can do something when I come back? :eek:
Me: CA sounds like fun. :D ttyl.

Now here's the problem. Was there a miscommunication? I distinctly txt her 'next weekend' & not this weekend. What's up with this?

Girl #2: Well, I just met this girl.

Her: I'm up for doing anything outdoorsy.
Me: Let's go King's Dominion this Sunday.
Her: Oh. I've got something going on this Saturday. We should meet up for a drink or something another day.

Ok I asked this girl out for Sunday not Saturday. She wants to do something outdoorsy but backs out for grabbing something to drink instead. Am I being irrational? It seems like these two girls' interest in me aren't high enough, since they both misinterpreted or act like they don't know when exactly I'm asking them out.

What do you fellas think? I realize I lean more towards anti-dump's teachings. That's why this is raising red flags in my head. :woo:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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girlsarecrazy

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Girl #1 sounds good.

Girl #2 is flakey usually they'll make their excuse clear if they have high interest. She just said she's got "something" going on.
 

Maestro Monk

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I'll second what's said above..#1 sounds like higher interest, but I would definately not write off either one of these..main reason being that they both counter-offered your invitation. Invite 'em out again sometime, but make sure you have other prospects.
 

2easy

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if their interest level is high, they will reschedule with you. You have a better chance with girl 1.
 
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