"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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waitress in restaraunt asking questions?

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PoloBlue

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I went to a restaurant Saturday all alone and told the waitress I need a table for one, then I ordered a meal off the menu and the waitress comes back and ask me if I speak a certain language? then I said "no" then she asked me where I was from, then she kept comming back and asking more questions, so i asked her a few questions too, she said she just moved here a couple of months ago from Louisianna , then I learned that she evacuated because of the Hurricane Katrina disaster a couple of months ago
she kept smiling and making direct eye contact, do you think she may have been interested in meeting me? or was it just small talk? :confused: should I go back and order a meal and try and talk some more? she said she has been living in the USA for 10 years and is from North Vietnam
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Tazman

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The only way to find out is to ask her out. You can't read into any "signals" especially when it comes to waitresses. They flirt for tips/repeat customers.
 
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DonJuanMonk

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^ I agree, she could be interested in you or just trying to get her ego stirring. Try to get her number and ask her out. It's the only way, bud.
 
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No one has mentioned this yet, I guess it's only cynical me... There is a possibility she wants a bigger tip.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Hmmm, maybe approaching her would be an idea to find out. :rolleyes:

Are girls that intimidating to guys?:confused:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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idiot_boyfriend

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Go back and chat with her more, ONLY if you know when she'll be there.

Otherwise, don't bother wasting your time.
 
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