"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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waitress in restaraunt asking questions?

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PoloBlue

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I went to a restaurant Saturday all alone and told the waitress I need a table for one, then I ordered a meal off the menu and the waitress comes back and ask me if I speak a certain language? then I said "no" then she asked me where I was from, then she kept comming back and asking more questions, so i asked her a few questions too, she said she just moved here a couple of months ago from Louisianna , then I learned that she evacuated because of the Hurricane Katrina disaster a couple of months ago
she kept smiling and making direct eye contact, do you think she may have been interested in meeting me? or was it just small talk? :confused: should I go back and order a meal and try and talk some more? she said she has been living in the USA for 10 years and is from North Vietnam
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The only way to find out is to ask her out. You can't read into any "signals" especially when it comes to waitresses. They flirt for tips/repeat customers.
 
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^ I agree, she could be interested in you or just trying to get her ego stirring. Try to get her number and ask her out. It's the only way, bud.
 
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No one has mentioned this yet, I guess it's only cynical me... There is a possibility she wants a bigger tip.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Hmmm, maybe approaching her would be an idea to find out. :rolleyes:

Are girls that intimidating to guys?:confused:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Go back and chat with her more, ONLY if you know when she'll be there.

Otherwise, don't bother wasting your time.
 
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