kingsam
Master Don Juan
maybe your Inner game and Outer game are more independent of each other than most guyszekko said:
eg if u gont feel confident its not obvious, whilst in most guys its really obvious
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Wait, so why do we learn to get hot girls anyways?
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eg if u gont feel confident its not obvious, whilst in most guys its really obvious
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
zekko
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That's very true actually. I've often been told by people they have trouble reading my emotions and what I'm thinking. Plus I've always known that even though I wasn't feeling confident I should fake it.
As for everything else, maybe it's just a matter of things balancing out. For example, I've gotten older (value drop) but at the same time I've been more successful and making more money (value gain). I was more tuned in to being social when I was younger, while as I've gotten older I've lost interest. But that's been balanced by other improvements. So maybe it's just me.
As I became more socially adept, the less interested I was in being social (hanging out at the bars and such). I think that once I proved to myself I could be that social guy, I forgot about it and started doing what I wanted to do, when I wanted to.