Wait, so why do we learn to get hot girls anyways?

[kingsam]

Even though I've been too skinny, bulked up, overweight, slimmed back down, dirt poor, making good money, been confident, been not confident, through it all the interest level I've gotten from girls has been oddly constant. Which is not a rockstar level or complete failure level, just somewhere in the middle. Common sense would tell you it should probably be otherwise but that hasn't been my experience.

maybe your Inner game and Outer game are more independent of each other than most guys
eg if u gont feel confident its not obvious, whilst in most guys its really obvious

 

[zekko]

maybe your Inner game and Outer game are more independent of each other than most guys
eg if u gont feel confident its not obvious, whilst in most guys its really obvious

That's very true actually. I've often been told by people they have trouble reading my emotions and what I'm thinking. Plus I've always known that even though I wasn't feeling confident I should fake it.

As for everything else, maybe it's just a matter of things balancing out. For example, I've gotten older (value drop) but at the same time I've been more successful and making more money (value gain). I was more tuned in to being social when I was younger, while as I've gotten older I've lost interest. But that's been balanced by other improvements. So maybe it's just me.

As I became more socially adept, the less interested I was in being social (hanging out at the bars and such). I think that once I proved to myself I could be that social guy, I forgot about it and started doing what I wanted to do, when I wanted to.