kingsam
Master Don Juan
maybe your Inner game and Outer game are more independent of each other than most guyszekko said:
eg if u gont feel confident its not obvious, whilst in most guys its really obvious
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Wait, so why do we learn to get hot girls anyways?
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eg if u gont feel confident its not obvious, whilst in most guys its really obvious
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
zekko
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That's very true actually. I've often been told by people they have trouble reading my emotions and what I'm thinking. Plus I've always known that even though I wasn't feeling confident I should fake it.
As for everything else, maybe it's just a matter of things balancing out. For example, I've gotten older (value drop) but at the same time I've been more successful and making more money (value gain). I was more tuned in to being social when I was younger, while as I've gotten older I've lost interest. But that's been balanced by other improvements. So maybe it's just me.
As I became more socially adept, the less interested I was in being social (hanging out at the bars and such). I think that once I proved to myself I could be that social guy, I forgot about it and started doing what I wanted to do, when I wanted to.