Wait or Act?

[Daniel1099]

so this girl iv been talkin to, we have been getting closer and i wana get into a relationship with her.

the problem is....she is grounded till her birthday which is in like 2 months.

when i say grounded...i mean she cant do ANYTHING. but have a friend over or something....

we hang out at school, and once in a while outside...but it sucks cuz she cant do anything...

she wants to wait till she is ungrounded to start any exclusivity...

but i feel like the ball is in her hands...and she has total control...

what should i do in this situation?

 

[I'm in the Mood]

You should act.

(If she wants you, being grounded won't make a difference.)

 

[WalkingStick]

do SOMETHING.

I and probably many others have been burned by waiting too long. If you have her now, TAKE IT.

After writing those first sentences I read the part where it says she "doesn't want any exclusivity yet". This should be a red flag for you. If she really wanted you to ask her out, she probably wouldn't have said that. She might want some time to think or just not want it at all.

If you have the balls and think she likes you, just ask her out anyway, it's a definite answer and you wont be killing yourself for waiting too long.

If you think she's losing interest, keep yourself busy. You have a PERFECT excuse to go hang around other girls (she's the one who "doesnt want commitment"). If she's interested, you'll know it.

 

[Daniel1099]

yeah for sure.

i know she wants me to ask her out.

but she thinks its going to be boring if we cant really hang out and do much...other then see eachother at school... thats why she wants to wait...

she made promise her that im not into her just for the physicle stuff (friends with benefits)

so i pinky promised her i dont want fwb. and that i want a relationship with her.

and then we whent back to lockin lips hahaha

 

[Daniel1099]

so i can tell she wants me to ask her out.

just waiting for a good solid day where i can get some flirting in, and then pop the question.

one problem with this whole situation though...

me and this girl have been on and off for like 2 years pretty much...not dating...just having flings...

but just these last 6 months i stopped being the AFC. and i can tell she is really into me, because i dont have oneitis for her anymore....

but everyone is probably thinking..."WOW...Daniel is at her again...watch him get his heart broken again"....

idk what to do....

 

[I'm in the Mood]

OK I only gotta say this once, u gotta ask her out once. And don't take "no" or "maybe" for an answer. Since you've been on and off, if she says anything but yes, NEXT her. You'll feel a burden lifted and you wont have to worry about having a relationship with her again.