"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Waining libido

Canadian Catnip

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Hi Guys.

I guess it's all part of getting older. I'm 45 and just recently started to notice that some days I just am not interested in gaming women at all.

I called the post Waining Libido but in actuality I still have a pretty healthy sex drive these days. I'm sexually attracted to women.

I don't suffer from a lack of female attention. I know many women and have a bunch of female friends. I even have a few young women coming on to me and showing interest from time to time. I'm not in any relationship, I prefer to live alone.

I guess I am becoming disillusioned with women on some level. Sometimes I can't be bothered to show them any interest at all.

It comes and goes, some days I want to meet and connect and other days I don't.

Can anyone else here relate to this and give me some advice as to weather it's just a change of life or is it a phase or what?
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Get your testosterone checked by your doctor. If it's low there are medications to help bring it back up. It likely won't make you feel 18 with raging hormones but should have some positive effect if that is actually the problem.

Oh yeah - disclaimer - I'm not a doctor giving medical advice. :D
 

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take advantage of it. When you conserve your "juice" you feel better and relate to others better. Instead of worrying about it, relish the opportunity to work on yourself so that the next time you feel "up to it", you can go at it with more energy gusto and vigor.
 
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The silver lining to this is the less you have a drive for it the more you get of it in because you are thinking of it less and therefore being more comfortable around hotter women. Generally speaking or course.
 

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I can relate to that. Sex drive is high and all, but maybe it's a been-there-done-it-so-many-times-and-it's-typically-dissapointing-I-don't-see-the-point-in-bothering-most-of-the-time syndrome. The woman opens her mouth and out comes that squeaky, high pitched whiny valley girl-like voice. Ugh. Or they have issues. Or they want babies.

Give me a class act. An intelligent, thoughtful, stylish, FEMININE woman (who doesn't want to have a kid). Do they make them anymore? It's then that I'd be more motivated.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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