"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Waining libido

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Hi Guys.

I guess it's all part of getting older. I'm 45 and just recently started to notice that some days I just am not interested in gaming women at all.

I called the post Waining Libido but in actuality I still have a pretty healthy sex drive these days. I'm sexually attracted to women.

I don't suffer from a lack of female attention. I know many women and have a bunch of female friends. I even have a few young women coming on to me and showing interest from time to time. I'm not in any relationship, I prefer to live alone.

I guess I am becoming disillusioned with women on some level. Sometimes I can't be bothered to show them any interest at all.

It comes and goes, some days I want to meet and connect and other days I don't.

Can anyone else here relate to this and give me some advice as to weather it's just a change of life or is it a phase or what?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Get your testosterone checked by your doctor. If it's low there are medications to help bring it back up. It likely won't make you feel 18 with raging hormones but should have some positive effect if that is actually the problem.

Oh yeah - disclaimer - I'm not a doctor giving medical advice. :D
 

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take advantage of it. When you conserve your "juice" you feel better and relate to others better. Instead of worrying about it, relish the opportunity to work on yourself so that the next time you feel "up to it", you can go at it with more energy gusto and vigor.
 
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The silver lining to this is the less you have a drive for it the more you get of it in because you are thinking of it less and therefore being more comfortable around hotter women. Generally speaking or course.
 

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I can relate to that. Sex drive is high and all, but maybe it's a been-there-done-it-so-many-times-and-it's-typically-dissapointing-I-don't-see-the-point-in-bothering-most-of-the-time syndrome. The woman opens her mouth and out comes that squeaky, high pitched whiny valley girl-like voice. Ugh. Or they have issues. Or they want babies.

Give me a class act. An intelligent, thoughtful, stylish, FEMININE woman (who doesn't want to have a kid). Do they make them anymore? It's then that I'd be more motivated.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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