"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Vulgar language around women
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
jakeyboy
Master Don Juan
really, you don't want to get her uncomfy by swearing when she isn't ok with it.
Swearing like most things, has its time and lace... but in my opinion, the less of it that you use, the better... i find swearing to be degrading, and when chicks swear alot, i find that to be a turn-off, so its probably the same with them if WE swear alot... So the less the better aight
but
if you use it in the right way Eg: You pick your chick up for a date, when u see her u can say something like "shiiiiiiiit u look fiiine" etc
And the word Fu<k is sometimes appropriate when having wild $ex with your chick
Eg: The two of you are kissing etc and then you say to her " i'm gonna fu<k you so hard" or something along those lines To your suprise, this turns some girls on.... So all in all, try keep AWAY from foul language, but as u know, there ARE exceptions
Laterz...
It is unnaceptable to fukcing swear in the presence of any fukcing lady even a ****e, why? These fukcing slutte sucking *** who bags deserve better than fukcing some **** fukcing using foul fukcing langauge in front of their ****asse faces.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
but if you go around swearing all the time, non stop for no reason its going to look bad and make you look like an angry and negative person, i would imagine the kind of girl that i like would not like guys who swear a lot.
Its just like a few years ago in adventure training camp with the cadet forces, well in a diffrent group to my group, we where driving past them in a mini bus and i saw this girl, now its not common for there to be many girls in the cadet forces, let alone this HB9.5 i had not seen a girl for 5 days and my eyes where just glued to her as we where driving out the camp to go rock climbing.
Suddenly i see this HB9.5 spit, and it was with her throat, like a redneck type guy might do, just like learnado decaprio does in the film titanic.
I was so attracted to her, and most of that intrest went out the window the second i saw her spit, partly because its not a very feminine thing, swearing does not make you a pu$$ey, and this does not prove girls hate guys swearing, but it shows that if you have a bad habbit that the oppsoite sex does not like, there attraction for you will go right out the window.
I think this shows you have to be a man! i would not like a girl who violently berps all the time either, these are not seen as feminin things, so if YOU do things which are not masucline and more feminin then girls will loose intrest.
im not saying burp and spit as these are dirty, you want to be classy, i mean be confident dont be afraid to talk loud and dont be afraid to aproch, if you show chracteristics of being feminin then girls will not like you.
Panda 2000
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diablo
Master Don Juan
Remember, everything in moderation.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
This is true with being vulgar. There's a correlation between the amount of expletives used with the inability of someone to express themselves clearly. However, used sparingly it could be considered similar to an interjection. But again, limitation and without vulgarity.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I'm not advocating going around swearing it up, but I find the connotation and power behind a well-timed and well-placed profanity can really drive the point home.
True that, though chicks just like to hear you talk dirty when you are in the sack, period !
Kaine
Senior Don Juan
I also find people that hang together tend to adopt certain group behaviours
i.e. swearing, drinking, karaoke
Therefore if I swear a lot in her presence, she will begin to do so as well. Hence I keep my swearing to a minimum around her
You may also want to avoid swearing when you are initially dating as well,
it's not very classy and smells a little like a lack of self control.
Your mileage may vary
Kaine
Women find it interesting how a young man doesn't swear, and in fact, they swear more. And when they do, I tell them to avoid that.
There are things that don't have any other ways of naming them except with "foul language". For instance, Sexy_Malibu... you can't avoid saying that she's a ****ing *****. You simply can't.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.