"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SupaPowa

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Hey guys.
Now I know people have been telling me not to go for a girl at work. But just a couple days ago ANOTHER super hot awesome waitress got hired and started working where I work. I met her, introduced myself and made a strong first impression.
But here's the thing. This guy I work with who's taller and has experience with girls made two things clear to me today.
1. He has a HUGE crush on this new employee.
2. He plans to "go" for it.

Now being the guy who's also kinda interested in this girl, BUT has NO experience with girls and is recovering from over 20 years of being beaten back down to "Beta" by those around him...What should I do?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Huffman

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Forget the guy and focus on the girl. She'll make her pick anyway.

You think you can fight with the guy and the winner gets the girl? Nuh uh. Come on bro, you don't even know her and are already competing with another dude? What is she gonna think? That you are insecure and feel threatened easily? Spot on. So don't do it.

I used to lived in a mixed dorm where theres 100 guys to 20 girls. There were situations where there's a hot girl with 5 dudes around her trying to impress, beating on each other. I never did that and I ended up scoring more than is statistically probable in such a weinerfest.

So yeah. I actually don't understand how I sometimes can take a girl with me when there's loads of dudes who are cooler than me (or so I think), but hell, don't think about the other guys as a threat. And they will become harmless.
 

SupaPowa

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Huffman said:
Forget the guy and focus on the girl. She'll make her pick anyway.

You think you can fight with the guy and the winner gets the girl? Nuh uh. Come on bro, you don't even know her and are already competing with another dude? What is she gonna think? That you are insecure and feel threatened easily? Spot on. So don't do it.

I used to lived in a mixed dorm where theres 100 guys to 20 girls. There were situations where there's a hot girl with 5 dudes around her trying to impress, beating on each other. I never did that and I ended up scoring more than is statistically probable in such a weinerfest.

So yeah. I actually don't understand how I sometimes can take a girl with me when there's loads of dudes who are cooler than me (or so I think), but hell, don't think about the other guys as a threat. And they will become harmless.
Thank you
 

Aaron B

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you are choosing to focus on factors that are not yet relevant and may not become relevant

instead choose to focus on what you can actually control: your own actions

like Huffman, I too did well in college (quite by accident) when my peers showered the girls with attention and I ignored them for the most part.

Watching what most guys do, then never doing those things is a simple and effective strategy
 

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Aaron B said:
Watching what most guys do, then never doing those things is a simple and effective strategy
Note: doesn't apply to all areas of life :D
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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